I’ve had some interesting discussions about how I’m shaming men with sex addictions by calling out the language Every Man’s Battle uses about women. This week we published our one sheet downloadwith the summary of issues with Every Man’s Battle (we also have one for...
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The Post That Will Help Men Defeat Lust
Does lust have to be every man's battle? The Every Man's Battle book series has sold 4,000,000 copies, and they've certainly spread the idea that lust is, indeed, what every man struggles with. And people do believe it in large numbers. 62% of women and 73% of men...
Why is Focus on the Family Supporting Pressuring Wives to Send Nude Pictures?
Yesterday Focus on the Family had Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta promoting their book Married Sex, and I'm just depressed. On Fridays I usually do a round-up of social media for the week, but I was awake so much last night in turmoil about this. At some point we need to...
On Bloopers, New Books, and Standing up to Creepy Guys at Church
I've had a very strange week of defending myself from attacks I didn't know were coming. I shared a little bit about this in yesterday's podcast at the end (my little devotional, or whatever you want to call it), but this was a very emotionally draining week. To...
How Did the “All Men Struggle with Lust” Message Affect You?
The "All men struggle with lust" message is a toxic one. On Tuesday I don't write blog posts anymore--but I published something on Facebook this morning that I thought I'd move over here as well! Yesterday I asked in my Instagram stories how the "All men struggle with...
PODCAST: How to Be Sex Positive Without Being Creepy
There's a very line between way TMI and just sharing educational information. And in today's Start Your Engines Podcast (we like to take the last Thursday of every month and dedicate it to a podcast that men would be interested in as well), we try to show how men and...
Let’s See the Pornographic Style of Relating in Action
What do you do when you're told that it's your Christian duty to act like porn for your husband? Many of you have really enjoyed hearing Andrew Bauman on the Bare Marriage podcast. He's the co-founder and co-director of the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual...
SEXUAL CONFIDENCE: How to Feel Confident When You’re Married to a Porn User
If you've been constantly betrayed in your marriage, how can you ever have sexual confidence again? We're in a sexual confidence series for October and November, where we've been talking about what sexual confidence looks like--and how to develop it. I was going to...
PODCAST: Are You Doing Sex on HARD MODE?
Are you making sex harder than it needs to be in your marriage? We're in the middle of our doing marriage on hard mode series, and today we're talking about doing sex on hard mode! (and, yes, I know that's a double entendre). We've got a lighthearted look via...
Don’t Tell Women to Have Sex So He Won’t Watch Porn
Telling a woman that the way she stops her husband from watching porn is to have sex with him is toxic. I'm getting ready to pack up our RV and leave the campground. It's been a great few weeks relaxing, knitting, and processing, and I'm grateful. And as we're...
PODCAST: Do Our Beliefs Affect Sex Trafficking?
What if the things that we believe are similar to the way sex traffickers justify their actions? Today on the podcast we're going to travel across the world with Meghan Tschanz, author of Women Rising, and see what she discovered in the brothels in east Asia as she...
On Christian Women & Mother Bears
Can I share some random thoughts I had this Mother's Day about protecting the vulnerable around us? Let me start with recounting how my Mother's Day began. My mom and I went on a walk with Rebecca and her son Alex (four generations!) by the waterfront trail where we...
Is Porn the New Purity Culture?
Is the next thing that's going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we're treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you're watching is "consensual"...