by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 23, 2022 | Libido, Making Sex Feel Good, Resolving Conflict, Sexual Intimacy
The most damaging belief we found on our survey of 20,000 women was the obligation sex message. Getting married believing that a wife was obligated to give her husband sex when he wanted it resulted in much higher rates of sexual pain, lower orgasm rates, and lower...
by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 12, 2022 | Theology of Marriage and Sex
I’ve been talking about Gary Thomas’ and Debra Fileta’s new sex book Married Sex off and on on this blog and my podcast for the last few months, and there’s been quite a hubbub about it on social media. The book has also been largely panned in...
by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 30, 2021 | Bare Marriage
The “Obligation Sex Message” is toxic. The idea that a woman is obligated to have sex with her husband when he wants it was the most toxic belief that we measured in our survey of 20,000 women for The Great Sex Rescue–and our survey of men. On...
by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 23, 2021 | Sex
How do you feel about advice that tells postpartum women to care for their husbands’ sexual needs? I don’t write big posts on Tuesdays anymore, but consider this one a prelude to Thursday’s podcast (yes, we’re releasing one on Thanksgiving...
by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 4, 2021 | Bare Marriage, Podcasts
What if the reason authors can’t give up the obligation sex message is that they fear women won’t have sex otherwise? It’s time for another edition of the Bare Marriage podcast! (And we filmed this before Rebecca gave birth; she’s being...
