I was blown away by your messages of encouragement yesterday, here and on Facebook.
Thank you so much!
I got up this morning with something I wanted to write that I’ve been thinking about, but you all told me to rest, so I think I’ll leave it and write about it when I’m home!
Instead today I thought I’d share some of my more popular Instagram posts–my “Fixed it For Yous.” These are all quotes that we looked at in The Great Sex Rescue (I have a whole spreadsheet of problematic quotes from best-sellers), and I just fix them!
The next two go together–they’re a “set”.
And then I post some quotes from our book, too, to counteract the negativity!
I have a lot of fun with these. And, full disclosure, the idea for “Fixed it for You” was Rebecca’s. Most of the good ideas are hers!
Anyway, make sure you’re following me on Instagram to see more!
And, again, thank you for all your encouragement yesterday. It meant so much.
The Great Sex Rescue
Changing the conversation about sex & marriage in the evangelical church.
What if you’re NOT the problem with your sex life?
What if the things that you’ve been taught have messed things up–and what if there’s a way to escape these messages?
I’ve got one.
A little while back, a poster remarked about how at a church group she went to, the women would have a competition to see who was the most submissive to their husbands. Instead, it would be better for them to celebrate how equal they are in the marriage.
Nathan,
That poster was me and sadly that was a true story. I love your fixed-it!
I always hold the door open for a lady and I have never once thought it was to get a certain glance as she goes by after me. If she’s beautiful, I’ll notice anyway, but it doesn’t mean objectifying her.
I know! That’s just what decent people do. The way that they reduce it to something crass is so gross.
Yes, that one made me so sad. I wonder how many decent guys, who have always held doors open out of genuine politeness, felt awkward and embarrassed to do so after reading that, because they’re worrying that this is how women will view their attempts to be polite!
It has never once crossed my mind that someone was holding a door so they could look me over. I hold the door for people all the time, men included, because its polite, I am going to keep believing that is the motive for most people, just not the creep from Every Mans Battle. I think that guy sounds like he should be kept away from society at large, he seems like a total predator.
I certainly would never want to be in a room with him. In fact, after reading these books I have a list of authors (or female author’s husbands) that I will never be in a room with.
Thank you, Sheila, for doing what God has called you to do with your time and energy. I am sooo very grateful that God is doing a healing work through you. You are doing the good works He has prepared for you to do. I pray that you do not pay attention to discouraging, disparaging remarks from those that oppose the work you do and that you remember that this work you do if for the Lord!
I am so glad you’ve gotten encouragement from many others and I just wanted to add to it. I don’t post comments very often, but I often read your posts and buy your books.
You have made a big difference in my marraige and my whole life and I thank you profusely!
I finished reading The Great Sex Rescue about a week ago.
Today I read this blog post, and wondered how you would “fix it” for me: https://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/engagement-newlyweds/7-ways-to-give-your-husband-breathing-room.html?utm_source=Daily%20Bible%20Living&utm_campaign=Daily%20Bible%20Living%20-%20BibleStudyTools.com&utm_medium=email&utm_content=5099680&recip=549486853
Wow, that’s really bad, isn’t it? I’d point that author to my month long series on emotional labor and mental load, and I’d sit that couple down and tell him that he needs to take on some of the mental load of the household.
Wow, just wow. This entire article needs fixing.
“Yes, your husband loves you. Yes, he wants to be with you. But if he’s typical of most men, he also needs his space, perhaps even more than you do.”
My fixed-it-for-you: Yes, your husband loves you and wants to be with you. But, as you are both typical of other people, you both need space at times.
BTW: I was the one in my former marriage who needed more space than my husband (now ex). He was the one who nagged and was clingy.