Today, I’d like to do a quick post with two ways that you can help with our mission.
We’re trying to change the conversation about marriage and sex in the evangelical church so that it’s healthy, evidence-based, and biblical. So that it focuses on mutuality, rather than power. So that we don’t talk about sex as a male entitlement and a female obligation. So that we don’t ignore abuse, like the story from our podcast last week of the marital rape victim who was put under church discipline.
1: Get The Great Sex Rescue translated into Spanish
Here’s how publishing works: When a publisher buys the rights to publish my book, they buy it in all languages. So my publisher (Baker Books) owns the Spanish rights to The Great Sex Rescue (and all other rights).
Then they try to sell those rights to other publishers (in this case, Spanish-language publishers), who translate the book and publish it.
They’ve tried to sell the rights, but the reaction from other publishers has been, “this isn’t a problem in the Hispanic world. This stuff isn’t taught here.”
We all know that’s not true. Love & Respect has been translated into Spanish and is a best-seller. As I’ve been talking with Latina women, they tell me the problem of male entitlement to sex and women feeling like they need to provide it to keep him faithful is even more pronounced in the Spanish-speaking world.
Well, this Thursday there’s a meeting with a Spanish publisher. I want to show them that there is indeed demand for The Great Sex Rescue in Spanish.
So I’ve set up a Change.org petition, and I’d love for those who may need the book in Spanish to sign!
Who Should Sign the Petition?
I’d like to keep the petition to those who speak Spanish or are in a community where there are Spanish speakers and you would gift it.
When you sign, PLEASE leave a comment too and tell who you would buy it for and how big the demand is in your own area.
And please share the petition with anyone who is Spanish speaking that you know! If we get enough signatures by Thursday we can make a difference.
Help out Sarah McDugal as she recovers from a car accident
Sarah McDugal is one of my go-to recommendations for women who are in abusive relationships. I get so many women in abusive marriages on the blog, but I’m not actually an abuse blog. I don’t have resources for people escaping dangerous marriages. But Sarah does. She can help give advice about navigating court systems, handling your kids’ trauma, recognizing abuse, etc.
Ten days ago I met Sarah in person for the first time. I was in Atlanta, and I drove two hours north to see her and have a meet-up of fifty people who support us. It was a wonderful evening (you can watch the Facebook Live that we recorded). After the event we went out to eat and talked about how we could collaborate more in the future.
The next afternoon she texted me these pictures:
She and one of her kiddos was in the car. The kiddo came to quickly after the crash and called grandma and waved down a passing truck and got help. Sarah was unconscious for at least 10 minutes, and had to be cut out of the car. She has a severe concussion and needs more workup for brain injuries. Her car is totalled.
The problem is that Sarah has devoted her life to helping victims–and most she does for free.
Her car isn’t worth much money, so insurance won’t give her much. She has major medical bills, with more to come. She needs physiotherapy. She’s really foggy and unable to work for at least two months if she is to recover.
So she needs people’s help.
I’ve helped to set up a GoFundMe campaign for her, and if you can help, even a little bit (seriously, even $10 can help!), it would mean so much.
Sarah helps so many women. But she can’t keep doing it without our help.
Thank you so much for your help.
Everything we do here is grassroots. Everything Sarah does is grassroots. We don’t have big organizations backing us. It’s just us, and the relationships we make.
But together, we are changing things. Thanks for being a part of this with us!
Sheila , I live in Bolivia South America I was born and raise here but am of American background. My church supports the love and respect book and I have seen the tremendous negative impact it has had on the marriage is here in my community and I would love to see your books and materials translated into Spanish so that we can start using them. I own many of your materials and they have transformed my life and I hope to help other women in my community, transform their lives and their marriages with the help of your materials.
I would love to be able to help you! Please sign the petition and leave a comment, and then get your friends to sign it too and leave comments! It would mean so much.
Here in Brasil, we have your Great Sex Rescue translated to portuguese. It is a precious resource, since almost every harmfull book has already Been translated and used in churches. Hope that spanish speakers will also be blessed by a translation of your book as well.
That’s so wonderful to hear!
My cousin is a pastor’s wife in Ecuador. I’ve forwarded the petition. Created to be His Helpmeet is pushed in her area of Ecuador (in Spanish)