Biblical manhood can’t be separated from actual biblical men.
There’s so much talk about “biblical manhood” and “biblical womanhood”, and it’s all rather crazy.
Most of the things that we consider “biblical womanhood” aren’t actually demonstrated by any of the feminine heroes of the Bible. Do you know any woman who actually fully submitted to her husband? I don’t. In fact, the woman who are praised are the ones who stood up for what was right!
And the women who are praised weren’t primarily gentle and quiet, either.
We encounter similar issues with biblical manhood.
When you actually look at what the male heroes in the Bible did, they often demonstrated many traits that we wouldn’t consider typically “masculine.”
One of the things I try to do at Bare Marriage is challenge these stereotypes that we have of men and women, and encourage all of us instead to seek out the Holy Spirit’s will for our individual lives and individual marriages. As we found in our survey of 20,000 women for The Great Sex Rescue, believing in gender stereotypes hurts people. Acting out traditional gender roles, where she stays at home and he works, for instance, doesn’t necessarily hurt people. But as soon as you think that this is the way things SHOULD be, then we start to see cracks in the foundation. We shared about all of this in chapter 2 of The Great Sex Rescue!
God created us as individual people. And He knows us intimately. He doesn’t see you as a stereotype; He sees you as you. And you’re allowed to be you!
We had fun making up biblical womanhood merch two years ago.
We sat down and thought about all the things that biblical women did, and created a design for it!
And we’ve got it available in all sorts of items–mugs, insulated travel cups, notebooks, stickers, even t-shirts (for the T-shirt, the main writing is on the back!).
And we’ve got canvas wall art and tote bags, too. Think of what a conversation starter it would be showing up to a woman’s Bible study with your Bible and notebook inside the bag!
This year we decided it was time to come up with Biblical Manhood merch too.
So one day while Joanna, Rebecca, Tammy and I were all on Facetime, we came up with a list of the things that we would not normally associate with biblical manhood that actual biblical men actually did.
In case you can’t read it, it says:
Be a Biblical Man
garden like Adam, cook like Jacob, write poetry like Solomon, dance like David, show affection like Jonathan, sing like Moses, submit to female leadership like Barak, repent and make right like Zaccheus, grieve like Job, teach like Barnabas, foster community like Nehemiah, study like Josiah, exhort like Peter, mentor like Paul, serve like Stephen, care for your children like Jairus, weep like Jeremiah, call others to holiness like Ezekiel, have faith like Abraham, care for your elders like John, share Christ like Andrew, stand fast like Daniel, and be devoted to our Savior like the disciple Jesus loved.
And we created merch with this design, too! T-shirts, mugs, travel mugs, and more.
(I use so many of the insulated travel mugs! Ice stays frozen all day, and they don’t leak so you can just pop it in your bag. I absolutely love them. They’re a game changer for me!)
I hope you like our biblical manhood merch!
It’s our new merch for September, and we’re always looking for new designs to launch.
This blog and podcast is basically paid for by merch sales, course sales, and our wonderful Patreon supporters (book sales help too, of course, but royalties from books are so low!).
So if you like something, pick it up and use it for an appreciation gift for someone at church; a graduation gift for someone at school; or just a statement piece for you. And, of course, they make great stocking stuffers too!
Want other ways to support us?
Check out our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit! It’s chock full of beautifully designed hand-outs about the problems with different teachings on sex, as well as checklists for pastors and leaders to use to make sure they’re talking about sex well.
It’s great for helping you have those conversations with your small group leaders, pastors, or more. And it’s pay-what-you-want, meaning you can pay very little if you just can’t afford it (because we don’t want price to be an obstacle), or you can kick in some more to help support us.
Or you can always support us on Patreon! That money is going to help us to do two big surveys in the next few months. And our Patreon Facebook group is a wealth of information–and it’s often where I run new post ideas first to see if they work.
Or check out our other merch and what’s in our store!
Have any other merch ideas for us to do? Or do you have different products you’d like with our designs? Let me know in the comments!