A healthy vagina is lubricated, supple, and elastic. It's supposed to be able to stretch (for obvious reasons, like both penetrative sex and childbirth), but then it's also supposed to go back into place afterwards. It's supposed to get lubricated and stay at least a...
Is sex really painful the first time? That’s one of the most common questions I get asked from engaged women waiting for the wedding night. How much is going to hurt? What should I expect? This month I’m going to look at some “myths” that we often have around sex....
This week The Good Guy’s Guide and Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex Turn 2! Two years ago, these two books launched. I wrote the original Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex in 2012, and Zondervan contracted with Keith and me to write a companion guy’s version, to come out...
I'm so immersed in talking about sex all the time that I sometimes forget how weird I am. I talk about this stuff all the time, so I forget that other people don't. Anyway, I'm in the middle of launch week for The Great Sex Rescue, and it's going great! Thank you so...
Today The Great Sex Rescue launches. I have had many books launch before, and I will have many books launch again. But this one is different. This one is special. Can I take a minute and tell you why? The Great Sex Rescue, we pray fervently with everything in us, may...
How do men and women feel about the amount of foreplay in their marriage? Yesterday was a super momentous day at the Gregoire household, because Keith and I (and Joanna!) finished The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and sent it off to the publisher! Yay! We've been...
What happens if you want to have a great sex life and you want to embrace sex with freedom and passion, but the duty sex message is holding you back? I'm going to turn this post over to all of you today, because, quite frankly, I'm swamped. I have a manuscript due in...
How do you get beyond "obligation sex" or "duty sex" to find the freedom of embracing sex because you actually want to? We're in the middle of our debunking series on the blog, and every week we're debunking a different teaching that's been prevalent in evangelical...
When we talk about people's "sexual needs", are we muddying the waters? Happy Monday, everyone! Hope you all had a good weekend and a lovely Valentine's Day. I'm in the final crunch to get the manuscript for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex in at the publisher, and...
There are times when not having sex is a good idea. That should not be a revolutionary thing to say, but I remember hearing about a big marriage conference on one of those cruises where a panel of experts was answering questions. One question from the audience came...
Quitting porn needs to be something that changes you--not just something that allows you to avoid what you find really enticing. Last week on the podcast we were talking about how women are not methadone for their husbands' sin addictions. They can't just have sex...
You cannot defeat porn by becoming methadone for your husband's porn addiction. And yet that's exactly what Every Man's Battle tells women to do!"Your wife can be a methadone-like fix when your temperature is rising.” "Once he tells you he's going cold turkey, be like...
For twenty years now Christians have been inundated with news about "every man's battle" and how every man struggles with lust. But what if our approach is part of the problem? I believe that because we talk about how all men struggle with lust, we're creating the...
If we believe that men are insatiable sex machines who will want and need sex everyday, what happens when we marry and wives find their husbands are just human? This week, on our Bare Marriage podcast, we talked with Rachel Joy Welcher about her book Talking Back to...
I wonder: since we've grown up believing so much that men want sex all the time, then when he doesn't initiate sex, do women feel rejected? I'm not talking about the rejection that higher drive wives feel (that's real, and that's difficult, and I've got a series on...