When men reveal they objectify women–treat those men accordingly. One of the things that shocks me about evangelical culture is that a man can reveal that he has a really low view of women, or that he objectifies women or blames them for men’s sin, and that doesn’t...
Do men naturally know more about sex than women? On a recent Facebook post, still deeply bothered by that infamous clip from Josh Howerton, I asked this question, “Do we think men "naturally" know more about sex than women do? And that men are equipped to teach...
When people say they “don’t want” sex tonight, what do they mean? We talked about this on the Bare Marriage podcast last week, but I'd like to elaborate on part of it today. I think we often get confused when people talk about this. They’ll say,“Well, sometimes I have...
How does understanding Rome's view of sex impact how we should interpret Paul's writings in 1 Corinthians? We're starting a series in the month of April of views of sex throughout history, and I started yesterday looking at 8 weird things about ancient Rome and sex....
How did different eras in time treat sex? I'd like to spend April doing some romps through history looking at how we've seen libido, the role of sex in marriage and culture, women's sexuality, and more. Sometimes we get to assuming that our way of thinking about sex...
What do you do if you've lost that spark and you want to be turned on by your husband again? I thought we'd switch gears a bit today and focus on a question that I get from lots of women: they want to be turned on by their husbands, but they're just not anymore. It's...
Sometimes, the way we talk about the purpose of sex makes it clear that we don't understand the beauty of sex at all. And that needs to stop! Just a quick post today (or what I hope will be a quick post) with a comment about a news story in the Christian world that...
The shootings in Atlanta this week are all too tragic--but I believe they are also a logical extension to how evangelicalism too often talks about sex, porn, and women. First, before I delve into this too much, these shootings were racially motivated. He killed mostly...
I'm so immersed in talking about sex all the time that I sometimes forget how weird I am. I talk about this stuff all the time, so I forget that other people don't. Anyway, I'm in the middle of launch week for The Great Sex Rescue, and it's going great! Thank you so...
Today The Great Sex Rescue launches. I have had many books launch before, and I will have many books launch again. But this one is different. This one is special. Can I take a minute and tell you why? The Great Sex Rescue, we pray fervently with everything in us, may...
How do men and women feel about the amount of foreplay in their marriage? Yesterday was a super momentous day at the Gregoire household, because Keith and I (and Joanna!) finished The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and sent it off to the publisher! Yay! We've been...
What happens if you want to have a great sex life and you want to embrace sex with freedom and passion, but the duty sex message is holding you back? I'm going to turn this post over to all of you today, because, quite frankly, I'm swamped. I have a manuscript due in...
How do you get beyond "obligation sex" or "duty sex" to find the freedom of embracing sex because you actually want to? We're in the middle of our debunking series on the blog, and every week we're debunking a different teaching that's been prevalent in evangelical...
When we talk about people's "sexual needs", are we muddying the waters? Happy Monday, everyone! Hope you all had a good weekend and a lovely Valentine's Day. I'm in the final crunch to get the manuscript for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex in at the publisher, and...
There are times when not having sex is a good idea. That should not be a revolutionary thing to say, but I remember hearing about a big marriage conference on one of those cruises where a panel of experts was answering questions. One question from the audience came...