What if the "all men struggle with lust" message is coloring how we see life? We're in the middle of our New Research series on the Bare Marriage blog, where we talk about some interesting studies that have come out with relevance to marriage, sex, and more. Recently...
We're in the middle of our Marriage Misdiagnosis series, talking about how often the church misdiagnoses the problems in marriage--and so offers the wrong solutions. Last week we looked at how often people are pressured to reconcile before trust has been rebuilt....
I do not believe that pastors need to be perfect. I absolutely believe that all of us are works in progress, and that we will always have areas where we need to grow. And I think it's a good idea, in general, for pastors to admit when they're still growing or where...
If a guy (or a teenage girl) has grown up using porn, how is that going to affect marriage? I'm going to take a bit of a time-out from Christmas posts today to talk about something that's come up lately that I think is important. If you've been married for less than...
To tell you the truth, I don't know a whole lot about erections. Mostly because I've never had one. But I get a LOT of questions about them. And I'm really behind on all my reader questions, so I thought today I'd invite my husband Keith onto the podcast, because he's...
Porn is not harmless. Social media can be a minefield. And the internet can suck productive time away and cause us to miss out on important parts of our lives. That's why I believe parents have to get a handle on their kids' internet usage, and why I firmly believe in...
If a man is trying to recover from a porn addiction, does he need to detoxify by making sure that he never sees any woman who could be alluring? One of the biggest searches that land people on this blog is for the effects of porn on the brain, and so I have a lot of...
Can you have a porn-free home? I wish I could say, "absolutely!", but I can't. I don't even like the title of this post, because it promises something I can't deliver. I was thinking of "Porn Safe", but that makes it sound like your home is safe FOR porn. Then I was...
A woman's husband had a secret porn addiction, so she gets rid of his smartphone to help him in his sobriety. Another woman checks her husband's email after she found out he cheated on her. A third woman changes the bank account password because her husband was...
Are wives to blame if their husbands use pornography? One of the things we've been talking about on the blog lately is that you are not to blame if your spouse has an affair. You may have contributed to serious marriage problems. You may even have been the biggest...
Summer is here, and many of us are heading to the beach! But what do you do if the beach is a minefield because your husband checks out other women? Some women have written in having this problem. Here's one woman who says that whenever they're in public (even at the...
Porn addictions do not discriminate. For the last few weeks, I have been writing about how we need to change the way we talk about sex in church; sex is not just for men, but for women as well. However, the same applies to porn. It is not just men who are getting...
Porn and anger go together, because porn doesn't just affect someone's sex drive. Porn affects personality, too. Last weekend I was speaking in Edmonton at the Breakforth conference on a cold, dark, freezing rain Sunday morning. The topic was "how porn wrecks intimacy...
What should you do if your fiance watches porn? Quite frankly, Porn destroys marriage. It rewires the brain so that what becomes arousing is an image, rather than a person. And it distorts people's sexuality, so that we concentrate solely on the physical aspects of...
We talk a lot about what to do when your husband struggles with porn here on the site. Today, however, we get to hear from Hugh Huston, author of Jesus is Better than Porn, who is himself a husband who struggled with porn for 30 years. And when he decided enough was...