Sometimes I feel like I'm writing into the void. I sit in my comfy yellow chair in my living room, and I just write what I'm thinking about, or what Rebecca and I have been talking about on walks, or what Keith and I have been discussing. I know people read because we...
I’m super proud of our Bare Marriage merch–and think it makes great gifts! We’re in the throes of the Christmas season now, and the deadline for buying merch and getting it delivered by Christmas is December 10, so the rush is on! And we have some awesome designs...
2022 has been a crazy year at Bare Marriage! We ended 2021--on December 31 no less--hitting 1,000,000 downloads of the podcast overall. So after three years, we got to 1,000,000 downloads, with 500,000 of them being in 2021. Well, in 2022 we reached 900,000 alone! So...
Everyday I get more questions about our survey, and about our data, and what we'll be studying next! I thought I'd try to answer that today in one central place. We've done the largest and most comprehensive studies of marriage and sex on evangelical populations, and...
The "Obligation Sex Message" is toxic. The idea that a woman is obligated to have sex with her husband when he wants it was the most toxic belief that we measured in our survey of 20,000 women for The Great Sex Rescue--and our survey of men. On Tuesdays I don't write...
As we're wrapping up the sexual confidence series today, I've been thinking about what the main message is that I want people to take away. For the last two months we've been talking about sexual confidence--what it is; what it's not; how to feel confident if you're...
Rebecca's postpartum! So we thought it was the perfect time to look at the postpartum advice given in evangelical circles to women. We found in our survey that sex lives can start to go off course with the way that sex is handled postpartum. Many people don't recover...
If you've read The Great Sex Rescue, it may have opened your eyes to so much that's holding you back. But where do you go from here?Sheila here! Today Dr. Camden Morgante, a clinical psychologist and good friend, is joining us to suggest next steps after reading The...
What if the reason authors can't give up the obligation sex message is that they fear women won't have sex otherwise? It's time for another edition of the Bare Marriage podcast! (And we filmed this before Rebecca gave birth; she's being induced as we speak, so that's...
Elisabeth Elliot's book Passion and Purity is NOT a love story. These last few weeks I've been reading the big books marketed to young women in the evangelical world for research for our mother-daughter book, and one of those was Passion & Purity. I read it first...
Today I want to revisit a rather controversial topic. Except "want" is really not the right word. I'd love to run as far away from this one as possible. But I keep being asked about sex toys, and I haven't written about them in a long time, and my thinking has evolved...
So I'm supposed to have a podcast out today! And I'm going to tell you a little bit of a story to give you three reasons why I don't. But don't worry--I'll give you some other stuff to listen to! Here's the first reason. I'm out in Alberta right now on a speaking...
People land on Bare Marriage in all kinds of ways! It may be links they saw on Twitter or Facebook. It may be posts that people emailed to them. But the two most common ways are Pinterest and Google--with Google being the biggest one. And because so much of my traffic...
It's time for a new episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! I hope you all will listen, but if you don't have time, I'll have some links and rabbit trails below so you can read all you want as well! Remember--to access all of the podcasts, you can click on "Podcast" on...
My mom firmly believes in creating memories by giving our family super fun shared experiences. She's at that age (I think I'm allowed to say that!) when she wants to be more purposeful with what she does. And she decided this year, for her 75th birthday, that what she...