How do we get others to see the truth about healthy sex & marriage teaching? It's so hard to break through all the slop that's on social media right now, and there's an uptick in the number of super patriarchal accounts saying really misogynistic things (like...
Thank you to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post God isn’t glorified when women stay in marriages where they’re abused Too many women have sat across from church leaders, bruised and broken, only to be told they must "bear their...
I've got two case studies of wholly unqualified people giving advice for you today! I’d like to tell you 2 different stories about 2 different influencer duos, 2 decades apart, and then show you how these stories relate to the harm being done in evangelical circles...
Should we endure suffering because it makes us holy? We have a distorted view of suffering in the church today, and it keeps so many women feeling guilty for wanting to make their lives better. Why don't you just put up with what you've got, because look what Jesus...
Does the Billy Graham Rule protect against sexual abuse? On Monday on the blog we were talking about the Billy Graham rule, and how it can harm women. An interesting discussion started on Facebook about that post, and I want to follow up on one of the themes in that...
What if our advice actually triggers the behaviour we want to prevent? One of my favourite places on the internet is our private Patreon Facebook group, where the people who support us financially hang out. For just $5 a month people can join our Patreon group, and in...
How do you have a Christian marriage? And is a healthy Christian marriage different from a healthy marriage of two non-Christians? I had this comment after our podcast last week looking at the quest for a biblical marriage:You guys do a wonderful job showing what...
Ever feel like the fog of toxic teaching is lifting? One of the more encouraging things that’s happened to me online lately is my readers’ responses when I posted just one quote from the August 1 Desiring God article, “Your Husband Will Be Perfect; How To Love A...
It’s okay to tell yourself the truth about your marriage. This year, I want to focus on what healthy marriages look like. And one of the big things about healthy marriages is that they tell the truth. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. He lives in truth and he...
What does it look like to have a “biblical” marriage? We toss that phrase around a lot–”biblical marriage.” It’s become a really loaded term. But often it’s assumed that a “biblical marriage” is just obvious. Everyone knows what it is. But do they? I’m back from an...
Do you feel like God is constantly disappointed in you? I’m enjoying some downtime this summer, and so I’ve been wanting to share with you some thoughts from some amazing women, highlighting them and giving them some much deserved exposure (so you can follow them...
Have you been grappling with the docuseries Shiny, Happy People? This summer, as I’m taking some down time for a month, I wanted to use the opportunity to introduce you to some amazing women that I “met” on Twitter, and whose writing inspires me and makes me think....
Before we get going with the regular post, this week Connor called me up with a notification he got from our podcast host! We Hit 2,500,000 Downloads! Thank you so much for your constant support! This is thrilling. "Listens" tend to be higher than downloads, and that...
Does the church prime women to accept objectification? This summer, as I’m taking a month off from blogging, I wanted to take the opportunity to introduce you to some amazing women that I’ve found via Twitter, who have some super insightful things to say. Chief among...
How did gender hierarchy theology become so accepted by so many? I’m taking a month off of the blog to get some much needed downtime, and I thought that this was the perfect opportunity to highlight some amazing women writers that I’ve been interacting with on...