One of the most frequent questions I get from men is this one: How can I get my wife to understand my sexual needs? He feels like he’s in a sex-starved marriage, and he’s desperate for sex. But the more he talks about sex, the more his wife pulls away. What’s the...
With thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! Complementarianism has a big problem. For those of you who don’t know, complementarianism is the belief that God placed men in authority over women, in marriage and the church (some...
Complementarians often use pretty words to obscure what they believe. They say things like "men are meant to be the protectors!", or "men bear the burden of responsibility" or "we are all equal, but we just have different roles." But when you break down what they're...
How do you have a Christian marriage? And is a healthy Christian marriage different from a healthy marriage of two non-Christians? I had this comment after our podcast last week looking at the quest for a biblical marriage:You guys do a wonderful job showing what...
It’s okay to tell yourself the truth about your marriage. This year, I want to focus on what healthy marriages look like. And one of the big things about healthy marriages is that they tell the truth. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. He lives in truth and he...
What does it look like to have a “biblical” marriage? We toss that phrase around a lot–”biblical marriage.” It’s become a really loaded term. But often it’s assumed that a “biblical marriage” is just obvious. Everyone knows what it is. But do they? I’m back from an...
Have you been grappling with the docuseries Shiny, Happy People? This summer, as I’m taking some down time for a month, I wanted to use the opportunity to introduce you to some amazing women that I “met” on Twitter, and whose writing inspires me and makes me think....
Does the church prime women to accept objectification? This summer, as I’m taking a month off from blogging, I wanted to take the opportunity to introduce you to some amazing women that I’ve found via Twitter, who have some super insightful things to say. Chief among...
How did gender hierarchy theology become so accepted by so many? I’m taking a month off of the blog to get some much needed downtime, and I thought that this was the perfect opportunity to highlight some amazing women writers that I’ve been interacting with on...
So much has happened with Focus on the Family this week! We've had an op ed published, and there are signs that Focus is refusing to accept accountability. I wanted to write it all up in one round up post, so here we go! First, Focus on the Family has now deleted over...
What do you actually SAY to people who believe horrible stuff about sex? Everyday when I start sipping my tea and check my inbox or social media messages, I'm inevitably greeted by a message that goes something like this: My church is about to start a small group...
Can you be a leader without being in authority? That’s an interesting question–and it’s one that’s popped up a lot in the comments section on the blog this week! I’d like to give some definitions and some broad discussions of this, and then just post some comments...
Let's talk about how complementarians think marriage can go wrong! This month on the blog Keith's been writing up a series on the Danvers Statement, the codified statement of complementarianism that launched the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and that has...
Sheila here! My husband Keith is here for his final installment this month for his series on the Danvers Statement, that statement that codifies what those who believe in hierarchy in gender relationships believe. It's been an awesome series, and I'm happy to welcome...
How did Power of a Praying Wife Affect You? This week we've been looking at the book Power of a Praying Wife. I summarized the problems with it on Wednesday, and then yesterday on the podcast Sarah McDugal and Gretchen Baskerville joined to talk through it. There has...