It's time for a deep dive into Lies Women Believe! ** Scroll down to receive the downloadable one sheet (look for the box to enter your email! ** As you all know, I have a deep concern that many resources offered to women in the evangelical world are deeply unhealthy...
“People would listen to you more if you weren’t so angry!” I hear this a lot. Or else it’s, “People just aren’t able to hear you because of your tone. I can’t share your stuff because they’d just tune you out.” And then there’s the inevitable, “I liked you better when...
Getting married to have sex is a really, really bad idea. Unfortunately, though, there are many hard-line patriarchal teachers, as well as many young people, who are adamantly saying that this is God’s design. When your sexual desires are too strong, you should just...
Denny Burk didn't like The Great Sex Rescue because we thought sex could be "egalitarian." Burk is the head of the Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and a professor at Boyce College at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He recently wrote an article where...
For the last week, social media has been debating whether David raped Bathsheba. It erupted anew when Owen Strachan, a staunch patriarchalist, called out abuse advocate and lawyer Rachael Denhollander, saying that she was wrong to say that the David/Bathsheba story...
Last week, Denny Burk accused us of being for women's pleasure rather than procreation. Burk is the head of the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, which defends extreme complementarianism (patriarchy), and thinks it's of God. He wrote an article addressing...
The Gospel Coalition published a crazy article about sex this week, and the internet blew up. It's been such a crazy two days I don't even know where to begin. It's actually quite unbelievable--except I saw it unfold in real time. I feel overwhelmed because there is...
Sheila here! Keith came on the blog today discuss biases and how they relate to evangelicals interpretations of the Bible, especially when it comes to women. No one reads Scripture in an unbiased way – especially the people that say they do. Does a person have the...
For Years, Every Man's Battle by Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker has been the best-selling evangelical book tackling sexual addiction. However, in our research over the years it has become clear that the book misdiagnoses the root of sexual addiction, and gives the...
Sheila here! My husband Keith came on to discuss his frustrations with claims of "being unbiblical" and not reading the Bible "plainly" while also ignoring what the Bible says plainly when it doesn't suit a personal belief. The Bible is seemingly filled with...
John MacArthur has sent abused women back to their husbands. It is horrific. Julie Roys broke a story last year about Eileen Gray. Twenty years ago she came to the church leadership at Grace Community Church for help for her abusive marriage. Her husband was abusing...
Let's keep fixing things--with Part 2 with Philip Payne! This is an exciting week at Bare Marriage! First, our Fixed it for You book launches--30 terrible things that evangelical authors and pastors have said, "fixed" for you (including 10 brand new, never before seen...
Are you ready to do some fixing? I'm so excited to announce that today my Fixed It for You workbook launches! When The Great Sex Rescue was published, Rebecca gave me the idea to take some of the horrible things that evangelical authors and pastors have said, but them...
Is God's Design for Biblical Womanhood Female Subordination? Does the Bible paint a picture of women as servants, and men as the main characters who are the leaders? Is this what God wants? That's what Philip Payne grew up believing. Like most evangelical Christians,...
A large part of the Christian church's teaching on women is seriously slanted. I see it all the time: I'll write a thoughtful, long post on how a woman should deal with sin in her family, and a commenter will say nothing except to quote 1 Peter 3:1-6 on how a woman...