ARE YOUR CHRISTMASES WITH EXTENDED FAMILY OFTEN, QUITE FRANKLY, BORING? When I was younger I loved Christmas. It brought family, which meant having other children to play with and to sleep over–it was the best part of my year. Unfortunately, my grandparents were both...
Every Friday, I (Rebecca) write an exclusive post for our newsletter subscribers. I work pretty hard at these, and I'm actually quite proud of them! What's been so encouraging, though, is seeing how they resonate with so many of our subscribers. Since we started...
Sheila here! This is a post from Rebecca from a few years ago, and with the holiday season approaching, I thought it would be a good idea to revisit it!Ever wanted to make family dinners more meaningful? And I've got to say, if you want meaningful conversations, you...
Come celebrate with me! Because today She Deserves Better launches! After two very long years, She Deserves Better is here! And it's selling so well (thank you all so much!), and we're all so, so excited to see how this will actually change the church--and set people...
Have we been selling our daughters an incomplete gospel? Let's do a thought experiment for a minute. Imagine everything you've been told the gospel is--about how Jesus saves, and what that means. Now imagine that you're actually Jesus (if that isn't too sacreligious...
I'm supposed to be at the zoo today. My cousin and her daughter are visiting from out of town, and I cleared the calendar today so that I would be free to go the zoo. Rebecca and Connor and the kids and Keith were all available, and it was going to be a big family...
We had an amazing Theology in the Raw podcast with Preston Sprinkle. It dropped on Thursday, but I'd like to tell you about it, because we've never had this opportunity before to answer (friendly!) pushback about our views on modesty and consent. We were on the...
I read a story about how a youth group culture contributed to a young woman feeling guilty about her own assaults. I'd like to share it today, because it fits in to everything we've been talking about with She Deserves Better, our new book that launches April 18 (and...
It's time to focus on the effects of modesty messages on girls--rather than the effects of girls on boys. For the last few weeks we've been talking about modesty rules for teens, on the podcast, on the blog, and on social media. I often get extremely frustrated...
When we talk about modesty, I often see commenters saying, "But she's dressing like a ho." Whenever the talk comes up about how girls shouldn't be held responsible for boys' and men's thoughts, inevitably someone will say, "What about all the girls coming into church...
Why did the evangelical church not recognize pedophilic language? Last week on the Bare Marriage podcast we told you about Dannah Gresh's Secret Keeper Girl curriculum, popular during purity culture, which told 8-12 year-old girls that their bellies were...
Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the problems that we discovered with the modesty messages that were given to girls as teens, especially during the purity...
How does hearing modesty messages as a teen affect you as an adult? We're working through another big chapter in our new book She Deserves Better today! For She Deserves Better, we surveyed 7000+ women to learn how their experiences as teens in church affect them...
In his book Grace-Filled Marriage, Tim Kimmel blames a girl for her own rape.TRIGGER WARNING: Discussions of rape as a teen in the rest of this article.I thought today, for International Women's Day, I'd like to look at what Kimmel said, but especially at all the...
What dating rules work best for teen girls? We're so excited that our brand new book She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self and Speaking Up launches next month! Until that launch, we want to take the podcasts to walk you through some...