God Didn’t Make Women To Be Better at Relationships than Men. We talked in our first podcast of the month about four new studies on marriage & sex. This month we’re taking a deeper dive into the studies in some of our blog posts. So let’s look at this study:...
Want something to help you have some deep conversations with your spouse? Keith and I are in the throes of finishing up the first big draft of our marriage book that comes out next spring! It's due in at the publishers on March 1. A big part of that book is the...
You're not going to believe what Emerson Eggerichs' idea of friendship is. We're in podcast 2 of a 3 podcast series, Let Men Be Men! Our thesis is a simple one: we believe that men can be emotionally healthy, competent, responsible people. We believe that men can, and...
If you know you have an unhealthy attachment style, how can you grow and change? It's the last day in May, and so I want to wrap up our posts about attachment styles. I'm so glad so many of you have found this concept helpful; it's really changed how I see the main...
Our attachment style that we learn in childhood affects our "love styles" as adults. I'm a big fan of the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. It's one of the few Christian marriage books that I can recommend wholeheartedly. How We Love is based on...
Has anyone noticed that the math in Love & Respect for how many people the book applies to doesn't add up? Joanna and her family are on their way down from the Arctic today to stay at my house for a week. They're moving to Edmonton (it's funny to think of Edmonton...
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
Our gendered teachings in the church can make it difficult for men to communicate directly with their wives, too. We're in the middle of our direct communication series, looking at why it's hard to communicate directly, what direct communication looks like, and more....
Do gendered teachings in the church make direct communication harder? We're in the middle of our series on direct communication--why direct communication is hard; what direct communication looks like; why direct communication feels mean, but isn't. Today and tomorrow...
When you start asking for things directly, it can feel like you're being really mean. But what if the opposite is true? What if speaking directly is actually a way to be kind? We're at the start of our direct communication series this month on the blog, and we've...
What does direct communication look like? And what ISN'T direct communication? This month our series will focus on direct communication in marriage: How to state your feelings and thoughts clearly, without beating around the bush. And how to listen effectively to your...
We've all heard the trope that men need respect while women need love. It's in the best-selling book Love & Respect, which I have critiqued copiously. And as we pointed out in a podcast on the problems with unconditional respect, the whole foundation for the "men...
Do you need to be a Christian to have a good marriage? Last week I wrote a post on what makes a good marriage. When I was initially sketching out my points, I instinctively wanted to include something about letting Jesus lead your marriage, or having the power of the...
How do you show love to your husband? How does your wife want to be loved? Our monthly theme for Wednesdays this month is about small, practical things you can put in place that can seriously help your marriage and help you to feel really close. Like, what are the...
You start dating, and it's magic. You put on music and do the silliest dance you can and she just thinks you're the funniest guy in the whole world. She laces her fingers with yours and it sends butterflies straight to your stomach. You spend all your time together...