Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes. We're doing something different for the podcast this week--out of necessity! We've been running behind since I was...
We've got a new research paper on modesty messaging coming out! We've been working behind the scenes on a number of different peer reviewed papers, and we have another one to tell you about today regarding modesty messaging and sexual harassment in church. Plus Keith...
Let’s talk ADHD and marriage! What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a relationship? And what do accommodations actually look like—versus what do they *not* look like in a healthy marriage? In...
What is healthy masculinity? And what do men need to understand about healthy marriage? A lot of my listeners may not know this, but I likely appear on twice as many OTHER PEOPLE'S podcasts as I do my own. I do a lot of interviews, and those interviews are quite...
I love Professor Neil's videos. Professor Neil is a professor of English literature at Cambrian College in Sudbury, Ontario, but he's best known for his TikTok and Instagram channels where he "stitches" videos from people who have said horriby misogynistic things,...
What if complementarianism is authoritarianism in disguise? One of the questions that haunts us here at Bare Marriage, that we're always trying to understand and strategize about, is how do we reach people who are still knee-deep in toxic teachings in their churches?...
We don't hate books! In fact, we love them! And over the last few years the younger members of my team have gotten REALLY into fiction. Today they're going to tell you why, and share why fiction should be a part of your life--and your kids' lives! Plus you get to meet...
Is it fair to call sex a need? We're very much against obligation sex here at Bare Marriage--we've done research that has shown that the obligation sex message results in far worse marital and sexual outcomes, and contributes to abuse rates. But at the same time, is...
What is "headship"? The headship doctrine says that because man is the head of the wife, then God made men to be in authority over women in marriage, and often in church too. But this assumes that the Greek word for head actually means authority. What if it doesn't?...
Let's talk about dating and finding a mate! This is the subject that Rebecca and I tend to avoid like the plague, because we feel very ill-equipped to talk on it. We both married very young; we didn't spend a lot of time single; and to make it sound like we understand...
The iea of soul ties was commonly taught in purity culture. Basically, it boils down to the thought that when you have sex with someone, your souls are joined in the spiritual realm. If you have sex with someone that's not your spouse, then, part of you will always be...
Let's talk about His Needs, Her Needs! Today, for episode 284, we're joined by Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende, who took one for the team and read Willard Harley's book His Needs, Her Needs. Interestingly, he's updated it a LOT since the Great Sex Rescue was...
Is the Evangelical Church a Safe Place for Women? Today we're joined by Dr. Andrew Bauman, with his new book Safe Church, based on his research into women's experiences in church. He shares with us why so many women have been harmed in evangelicalism, from things like...
Let's look at some interesting new research studies on infidelity and more! Every now and then we like to do a research spotlight podcast where we pull a bunch of new studies and see what they say about the things that we talk about all the time here at Bare Marriage....
It's time to answer some questions--and draw some boundaries! We thought we'd do a rapid fire Q&A in today's podcast, and take some questions from the audience! So I pulled a bunch of questions from Instagram for Rebecca and me to answer. But first--Keith and I...