What quality of sex do evangelical couples tend to have? This was one of the questions that we set out to answer when we launched our ground-breaking survey to 20,000 married evangelical women and our followup survey with 3000 evangelical men. We used the data from...
What do you do if you've never enjoyed sex--but you've been having it anyway? What if you've been married for years but sex has never felt great, but you've been "fulfilling his needs." And now you're getting tired of it and you want that to change? Or what if you've...
Maybe orgasm is elusive because we're going about it wrong. I’m pretty sure that when most people start The Orgasm Course, they’re going to head right to Module 4. That’s where we talk about sexual technique and how to figure out arousal and orgasm. That’s where we go...
Is lust really every man's battle? And how do we handle different libidos? It's launch week for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, and I wanted to save some of our most important findings from our men's survey for this special...
Does lust have to be every man's battle? The Every Man's Battle book series has sold 4,000,000 copies, and they've certainly spread the idea that lust is, indeed, what every man struggles with. And people do believe it in large numbers. 62% of women and 73% of men...
Can we please change the way we talk about women not wanting to have sex? I've seen a few videos on TikTok lately where Christian men bemoan the fact that women stop wanting sex once they get married, and call this "emotional damage." I do agree that if a spouse...
Growing up, we hear, over and over again: "Just wait for the wedding night! The wedding night will the most magical night of your life!" We get that message from our youth groups; from movies; from bridal magazines. The honeymoon is the pinnacle of your sexual life...
Can sex be hot and holy at the same time? One of my big picture passions that I want people to understand is that sex is more than just physical--it's supposed to be deeply intimate too. And maybe to understand that, we need to take a step back to see what God thinks...
Today The Great Sex Rescue Turns One! Exactly a year ago today it hit the shelves (and hit Amazon!), and it's been quite the ride. Based on our study of 20,000 women, The Great Sex Rescue was written to turn the Christian world on its head. We identified four big...
What if a guy knows he’s gone down a bad path with his sex life–but he doesn’t know how to get back? Like many of you probably did, I spent much of the weekend watching the invasion of Ukraine by Russia unfold on social media. There were some heartwarming and...
The most damaging belief we found on our survey of 20,000 women was the obligation sex message. Getting married believing that a wife was obligated to give her husband sex when he wanted it resulted in much higher rates of sexual pain, lower orgasm rates, and lower...
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
Yesterday Focus on the Family had Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta promoting their book Married Sex, and I'm just depressed. On Fridays I usually do a round-up of social media for the week, but I was awake so much last night in turmoil about this. At some point we need to...
Too many people don't understand the sexual response cycle--so let's spell it out and figure out why this lack of info has become so prevalent in evangelicalism! It's time for a new podcast, and today's podcast summarizes yesterday's post on the sexual response...
So...have you ever heard the term "sexual response cycle"? Basically what it means is that our bodies go through distinct stages during sexual arousal and response, leading up to orgasm and then resolving. And many of us don't understand what those stages are--which...