Obligation Sex is the idea that a wife is obligated to have sex when her husband wants to. It’s that simple. It was one of the beliefs that we studied in our survey of 20,000 women for our book The Great Sex Rescue, and we found that when women believed this message...
Every week I try to create awesome content for you all on the blog and the podcast–and even my social media! But I’ve got to tell you–some of the best content coming out of Bare Marriage is our Friday email that goes out to 46,000 people every week. And I don’t write...
This week, Focus on the Family actually published something healthy. Now, before I go any further, this does not mean that I think they’re a healthy organization now. They still promote all the same unhealthy authors in their store. They still don’t condone divorce...
To tell you the truth, I don't know a whole lot about erections. Mostly because I've never had one. But I get a LOT of questions about them. And I'm really behind on all my reader questions, so I thought today I'd invite my husband Keith onto the podcast, because he's...
What do you do when you're feeling sexually frustrated in your marriage? A lot of advice for sexual frustration tends to be for singles, because sex is entirely off the table. But what about when you're married, when sex IS an option, but your spouse just isn't giving...
What do you do if sex is very distasteful, and you'd rather not be sexual in your marriage at all? Last Friday I wrote a post about how withholding sex in your marriage is not a good idea (it's better to deal with WHY you're withholding sex). And last week I wrote...
Is withholding sex in marriage okay? If you're not a sexual person, or if you don't think your spouse deserves sex, is it okay to cut them off from sex? A lot of people who are on this blog are desperate because their spouses have sex with them less than once a month,...
Does having sex with somebody mean that you have a soul tie with them--a spiritual bond that is hard to break? This month at Bare Marriage we're doing our Wednesday series on soul ties and emotional bonds, because it's a topic that seems to come up a lot in Christian...
Personally, I think women's libidos is largely in our heads. As in, what we think about libido determines our libido. So what is it that we're told to think? Well, let's do a comparison here. Decades ago, boys took a lot of math and did most of the math jobs. Now, I'm...
Do women deserve to orgasm when making love to their husbands? Is it reasonable to expect that when a couple is making love, both of them should receive pleasure? I normally do a top 10 post on Tuesdays, and I had something all ready to go, but there was a discussion...
What happens to sex in marriage when menopause hits? Or when men's bodies start to slow down and erectile dysfunction becomes more common? On Wednesdays during the month of October I've been talking about the different stages of sex. We talked about: The "Figuring...
This marriage blog was originally for women--married, Christian women, to be exact, although honestly anyone is welcome! It's about advice for marriage from a Christian perspective, and I deal with everything quite openly--including sex. Most people who read here are...
Porn is not harmless. Social media can be a minefield. And the internet can suck productive time away and cause us to miss out on important parts of our lives. That's why I believe parents have to get a handle on their kids' internet usage, and why I firmly believe in...
Can your marriage stay close in those middle years? All month we've been talking about the different stages of sex--how sex changes as you get older and your marriage grows. We talked about the honeymoon years, the busy years, and the glory years. This week we're...
If your husband wakes you up for sex, or starts sex with you when you're asleep, is that okay? A reader sent me a link to a post that The Transformed Wife did recently where she was telling a woman that being woken up for sex when she didn't want to be is a-okay, and...