Is there hope for recovery for unwanted sexual behaviors, fantasies, or compulsions? I've been wanting to do this podcast for ages! I love Jay Stringer's book Unwanted, and we've connected behind the scenes a bit over the last few months, talking about our respective...
How many of us have heard a grown man grumble about what a teenager is wearing, saying “She knows what she’s doing”? Rebecca here on the blog, bringing you another dose of data from new research we haven’t reviewed on the blog yet! This one is super interesting, and...
What if the "all men struggle with lust" message is coloring how we see life? We're in the middle of our New Research series on the Bare Marriage blog, where we talk about some interesting studies that have come out with relevance to marriage, sex, and more. Recently...
Is the next thing that's going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we're treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you're watching is "consensual"...
The shootings in Atlanta this week are all too tragic--but I believe they are also a logical extension to how evangelicalism too often talks about sex, porn, and women. First, before I delve into this too much, these shootings were racially motivated. He killed mostly...
We read through the best-selling evangelical sex and marriage books when we were writing The Great Sex Rescue--and in many cases we were thoroughly dismayed. What was said about sex in those books was toxic. Last weekend, I wrote a thread that blew up on Twitter,...
There are times when not having sex is a good idea. That should not be a revolutionary thing to say, but I remember hearing about a big marriage conference on one of those cruises where a panel of experts was answering questions. One question from the audience came...
Quitting porn needs to be something that changes you--not just something that allows you to avoid what you find really enticing. Last week on the podcast we were talking about how women are not methadone for their husbands' sin addictions. They can't just have sex...
You cannot defeat porn by becoming methadone for your husband's porn addiction. And yet that's exactly what Every Man's Battle tells women to do!"Your wife can be a methadone-like fix when your temperature is rising.” "Once he tells you he's going cold turkey, be...
For twenty years now Christians have been inundated with news about "every man's battle" and how every man struggles with lust. But what if our approach is part of the problem? I believe that because we talk about how all men struggle with lust, we're creating the...
What if we actually ask men about lust--and it turns out that the majority don't struggle with it? That's the focus of our podcast today--what does the "all men struggle with lust" message do to us? Before we get started, a quick behind-the-scenes look at how crazy my...
When we think of porn, we tend to think "sin". (It's Sheila introducing this post, but I'm going to put Rebecca as the author since most of these are her words below!) When it comes to porn, what if there's more going on than just "sin"? What if an action can be...
How does sex become pressure-free when you really do want it? It's the last Thursday of the month, which means our podcast today is directed at the guys (well, both can listen to all my podcasts, but in this last podcast I always aim more towards the guys, while...
Why should men join the fight against pornography? I'm excited to tell you today. It's Keith (Sheila's husband) on the blog today. This month the theme is about pornography and the terrible effects that it has on marriages and the people in those marriages. In a way...
What's happening with the next generation when it comes to pornography? How will porn use affect them, and their marriages? We're in the last Monday in our series about porn in April. We looked at the effects of porn; at 4 things you should do if your spouse uses...