With thanks to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post.My husband Keith is in the middle of a 4-part series about why complementarianism has such bad outcomes. He started last week looking at the analogy that complementarians often use when...
Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post.My husband Keith and I talk a lot behind the scenes about the theology of complementarianism. It really bothers him that so much of the theology and arguments holding complementarianism up...
So much Christian teaching is dedicated to keeping men in power over women. I don't think that's of Christ. I know it bears bad fruit (we've measured it!). And I believe that it is pushing women out of the church and making marriages worse. And so I'm always ecstatic...
Why do people deconstruct and become exvangelicals? Today on the Bare Marriage podcast author Sarah McCammon, an NPR journalist, joins us to talk about her experience with deconstruction, and what she learned interviewing so many people for her new book explaining the...
Deconstruction is a key term in evangelicalism that nobody knew 10 years ago. It’s a growing movement, and it’s largely misunderstood. I’m dedicating four podcasts to deconstruction, starting tomorrow. We'll begin with Sarah McCammon talking about her book...
I grew up believing God was chronically disappointed in me. I knew He loved me, absolutely. But I also pictured God kind of like a self-help magazine cover: 7 Ways You Could be More Disciplined; 4 Ways You Could Be Getting More Things Done; 3 Ways You Could Stop...
Something interesting happened this Father's Day. I had so much fodder for a podcast--a terrible post by Focus on the Family telling women to "frame" their husbands as heroes, rather than telling men to act like heroes; a terrible postcard sent out by a Baptist church...
What if we’re asking the wrong questions about what to do in the bedroom? Does God have a spreadsheet of all the possible sex acts that two people could do together, with checkmarks or X’s beside each one? Sometimes it seems like that’s what we think. When I give my...
Should you read Christian self-help books that are a little bit harmful? Recently I posted an Instagram reel taken from the podcast I recorded with Natalie Hoffman and Gretchen Baskerville about the book Lies Women Believe.Here’s what I said:That is a big thing. And...
This new research about cheating is fascinating. It was published online just on Tuesday, and I've already incorporated it into the marriage book we're editing right now that's due at the publishers next week! But listen to this:The evidence from this study exposes...
Do you think the Bible teaches people to accept bad behavior? It can certainly seem that way! And one of the passages that is most often used to support that is the idea that we should “turn the other cheek.” I remember being in a Bible study at IVCF in university...
Let's get real about Church life! Today we have some special guests on, the lovely ladies from Pastors' Wives Tell All! This is not the first time I've been on a podcast with them, but usually it's theirs. So this time they are joining me on my show to discuss the...
Sometimes finding a life-giving church means investing in building one. When our girls were tiny we lived in downtown Toronto, and attended an amazing Anglican church that was made up mostly of people who weren’t Anglicans. It was in a historic church building, with...
Some awfully bizarre things happened at the recent Strong Men’s Conference–and Jezebel made an appearance. I don’t even know where to begin, and I don’t want to talk about the conference itself because so many have already done a good job. To sum up, there was one of...
Josh Howerton has made terribly degrading comments about women and sex from the pulpit. His teaching on sex and marriage has been problematic. And I seem to be in the middle of it. Because of that, I've been sent a ton of problematic things about Lakepointe from a lot...