It's the podcast where we finally get to disprove the love & respect thesis! Did God make men to need respect, while women need love? Do men prefer respect over love? We've been told this for decades, starting with James Dobson popularizing it, and then Emerson...
What happens when churches make up a ridiculous stat--and spread it? Ever heard the stat that when fathers come to Christ first, in 93% of families the wife and kids follow, but when wives come to Christ first, it's only 17%? It's been quoted by J.D. Greear when he...
This new research about cheating is fascinating. It was published online just on Tuesday, and I've already incorporated it into the marriage book we're editing right now that's due at the publishers next week! But listen to this:The evidence from this study exposes...
Has modern Christianity become an echo chamber? And is that leading us to have super bad takes on many issues that are really important? Today we're taking a look at a theme that we've noticed in evangelicalism: anti-intellectualism, and a denial of science and...
Every Friday, 46,000 people receive our weekly email, linking to all of this week’s posts and podcasts, with a summary, so people can make sure they don’t miss anything they’re interested in. But the email also has a big thought authored by Rebecca–not me. And these...
Could the rose-colored glasses effect be masking marital unhappiness? Last month, one of our podcasts worked through some of the issues with claims that complementarian, conservative women had the best marital outcomes. We also wrote a long opinion piece detailing...
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a hierarchy and that men should get the final decisions (complementarians) do best. This is the podcast (and the op ed) that...
What if our advice actually triggers the behaviour we want to prevent? One of my favourite places on the internet is our private Patreon Facebook group, where the people who support us financially hang out. For just $5 a month people can join our Patreon group, and in...
Ever feel like the fog of toxic teaching is lifting? One of the more encouraging things that’s happened to me online lately is my readers’ responses when I posted just one quote from the August 1 Desiring God article, “Your Husband Will Be Perfect; How To Love A...
Before we get going with the regular post, this week Connor called me up with a notification he got from our podcast host! We Hit 2,500,000 Downloads! Thank you so much for your constant support! This is thrilling. "Listens" tend to be higher than downloads, and that...
Evangelical materials are often very subpar. A few years ago, after I had written our first series about the problems with the book Love & Respect, a male friend of mine who had led sessions on Love & Respect at an annual men’s conference contacted me. He had...
We can change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Let’s say that with the proper emphasis: We CAN change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Or even: WE can change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Together. That’s...
Social media is revealing that not all pastors and authors are experts. For several years in a former church we had a pastor who liked asking congregants to come up and give pertinent illustrations in their areas of expertise. So when he was talking about how the eye...
Why do people hate our research for The Great Sex Rescue so much? Well, really hate our research for everything, including our new book She Deserves Better! Last week, a Twitter storm broke out with me at the center of it. Podcast host Patrick Miller invited Josh...