Sheila here! Our team got some good news recently, and Joanna Sawatsky (one of the co-authors for The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better, who leads up the research side of what we do) wanted to share it with you today!We at Bare Marriage have had a big year. We...
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PODCAST: We need a NEW STANDARD for healthy teachings.
Our survey results have completely changed how we talk about sex. And that likely surprises absolutely no one. But what we weren’t expecting was how much it would keep changing how we talked about things with each new finding. It feels like every 6 weeks Joanna calls...
When We Said Women Were Hurt, They Said We Were Gaslighters
Sheila here! When I was planning last week's podcast looking at how the authors and organizations that we critiqued in The Great Sex Rescue had responded to our book, I started making a list of all the things that they had acccused us of. By the end of that effort, I...
Psychology Today Says Women Are Getting Higher Standards–and Men Are Left Lonely
What if men are finding it hard to find a mate because women are getting higher standards? That's the claim in a new article in Psychology Today that's going crazy on social media right now: And I checked out the references the post uses, and they appear to hold up! A...
What Christian Authors Can Learn from Academia
Science often makes leaps and bounds by disproving previous assumptions and hypotheses. Galileo turned the world upside down (literally) by positing that the world wasn't flat; that it was round and revolved around the sun. For centuries Newton's theories were the...
Do Conservative Evangelicals Have Better Sex and Less Abuse? Our Response to Josh Howerton
I've got an awesome example of how stats can be misused today! And why it's important when we hear someone who isn't trained in statistics using studies to "prove" their point, when the point sounds like a stretch, to actually check their sources. In February, Dallas...
The 5 Love Styles and the Attachment Styles Dance
Our attachment style that we learn in childhood affects our "love styles" as adults. I'm a big fan of the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. It's one of the few Christian marriage books that I can recommend wholeheartedly. How We Love is based on...
Your Kids May Have Attachment Issues; That Doesn’t Mean It’s Your Fault
When my daughter Rebecca was 19 months old, her baby brother died. He was only a month old. We learned when I was about 5 months pregnant about his heart condition, and that things would be very touch and go. We spent the last four months of the pregnancy petrified of...
On Kissing Before Marriage, Hilarious Reviews, and Horrifying Advice
On Fridays I like to take a look at what's been happening on social media this week, because often most of the writing/thoughts end up on Facebook or Instagram, and if you mostly read the blog you may miss them. So let's go: Let's talk Kissing Before Marriage! I...
The Math of Love and Respect
Has anyone noticed that the math in Love & Respect for how many people the book applies to doesn't add up? Joanna and her family are on their way down from the Arctic today to stay at my house for a week. They're moving to Edmonton (it's funny to think of Edmonton...
Just a Personal Christmas Check-In
My husband told me yesterday that I was in the middle of the "long dark night of the soul." We went down to a winery to celebrate our anniversary and we were just talking about the last year, and where we're at now emotionally and where we think we'll end up in five...
2-Step Plan to Tell if a Book or Teacher is Safe and Healthy
In the evangelical church, too many of our books, resources and pastors spread messages that we now know are harmful--and we don't have a way to stop it. Last year, we conducted a survey of 20,000 predominantly Christian women to see if any of the messages that are...
The Man Who Changed a Grieving Heart
So many women whose marriages have fallen apart end up on this blog, wondering if there is any hope for finding the kind of love that God designed for marriage. And today I have a lovely story I want to share with you from Manndi deBoef, one of my readers. As may of...