Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker ignore abuse victims in Every Man's Battle. They never talk about the reality of sexual abuse, or acknowledge that a man's lust and sexual behavior can deeply injure women. Instead, they portray the victim when men lust as the man...
One of the things that amazes me is that so little is expected of complementarian men. The last few weeks has shown us that in spades, as so many pastors reacted to Philip Yancey's affair by saying, "It could have been any of us," and SBC megachurch pastor Jonathan...
Social media comments often give a sobering insight into what men are thinking. And today I'd like to show you what a thematic analysis of social media comments would look like! As you may know, we're quite busy behind the scenes drafting academic papers, some in...
What is healthy masculinity? And what do men need to understand about healthy marriage? A lot of my listeners may not know this, but I likely appear on twice as many OTHER PEOPLE'S podcasts as I do my own. I do a lot of interviews, and those interviews are quite...
I love Professor Neil's videos. Professor Neil is a professor of English literature at Cambrian College in Sudbury, Ontario, but he's best known for his TikTok and Instagram channels where he "stitches" videos from people who have said horriby misogynistic things,...
What happens when a charismatic man with no qualifications starts a marriage ministry? You end up with a book that sounds like he wants the best for people--but gives completely unhelpful, and often very harmful, advice. Today Keith and I are taking a deep dive into...
What if a guy is struggling with lust, but honestly wants to do better? But at the same time, he finds that when he’s out in public, he DOES immediately focus on women’s body parts or imagine them naked. He doesn’t want to. He’s in counseling. He’s trying to stop it....
Hi, everyone! This week we're talking about orgasm--because it matters! We spend a lot of time on the blog talking about where teaching has gone wrong and made our marriages and sex lives worse. But we've also created a ton of content, including courses, that teach...
Let's talk Alpha Males! It's the last podcast of season 7, and we're going to be taking May off of the podcast and the blog so we can finish up edits on our book and take a bit of a vacation. But we thought, for this last podcast of the season, we'd wrap up what we...
You've likely heard of the "Bear or Man?" Test If you were alone in the woods, would you rather come across a bear, or a man? It's been taking social media by storm, and women overwhelmingly have answered "bear", which has made many men angry. The reasons women have...
Why are we asking women to choose between being a wife and being a mom? One of the themes that pops up often in evangelical marriage literature is warnings to women not to be a mom first and a wife second. It's in almost all of Gary Thomas' books. I used to teach it!...
Let men be dads! It's our third podcast in our let men be men series, and we're finishing that up today with a bang! We often get accused of hating men, which is funny, because we believe men are amazing! Men can be totally emotionally healthy. Men have the Holy...
What if the sex that is being described by many male authors is actually male-centric? What if the way they're talking about sex actually hints that it's not about her pleasure at all, but is simply focused on his climax during intercourse? That's what we think is...
Every Young Man's Battle is a dangerous book. Part of the Every Man's Battle series, it is addressed to teenage boys to help them battle lust and pornography. I hear about Christian schools and youth groups that are still going through it with 13, 14, or 15-year-old...
Let's talk Non-Toxic Masculinity! Men were not created to sin; and men were not created to be clueless when it comes to emotions and relationships. Today we have Zachary Wagner on the podcast with his new book that I am so excited about--Non-Toxic Masculinity. Then...