Forgiveness is a concept that has often been weaponized against victims. Whether it's people married to abusers, or people married to someone who has cheated on them or hurt them in some other way, often in the church as long as that person apologizes, the onus is now...
Understanding our stories helps us understand our choices--and make different ones in the future. The last book I read in 2023 was an advanced copy of Natalie Hoffman's new memoir, All the Scary Little Gods. It's absolutely devastating and lovely and completely quirky...
Who is really a complementarian? Just when we think we're finished arguing something, another critique pops up. And honestly--we had SUCH FUN doing this podcast! Keith and I planned it for several days beforehand, going over all the arguments we wanted to use. But it...
Terran Williams is a pastor whose life was upended when he was assigned a "simple" task. He was working at a large church in South Africa when he was assigned the task of writing up their position paper on complementarianism. They all believed it, but they didn't...
It's time to debunk obligation sex once and for all. The most common question I get on social media is how to respond to obligation sex messages--"But what do you say about 1 Corinthians 7, do not deprive?" "But what do I do if pastors tell me it's a sin to withhold...
One of the books that women report is most harmful to them is For Women Only. When we analyzed 13 of evangelicalism's sex & marriage best-sellers when writing The Great Sex Rescue, For Women Only scored 11/48, ranking 11/13--so the third worst, in front of only...
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a hierarchy and that men should get the final decisions (complementarians) do best. This is the podcast (and the op ed) that...
Should we endure suffering because it makes us holy? We have a distorted view of suffering in the church today, and it keeps so many women feeling guilty for wanting to make their lives better. Why don't you just put up with what you've got, because look what Jesus...
Can discipline and kindness go together? Today on the Bare Marriage podcast we're joined by one of our favourite people, Wendy Snyder, a parenting coach with Fresh Start Family. She helps parents learn how firm kindness works--how we can connect with our kids through...
We finally saw the Barbie Movie! Keith and I, along with my mom and my son-in-law, went to see the Barbie movie last weekend! Rebecca and Connor saw it on opening night, but with vacations and sicknesses and other stuff Keith and I haven't been able to see it until...
What does a biblical marriage look like? We're back for another season of the Bare Marriage podcast! And this year we want to look at what it means to live out the Jesus Way of marriage--how it's about letting go of the chain-of-command mode of marriage, which means...
We hear this all the time: "I want to share your podcast with friends, but I have no idea which episodes to start with!" And I get it. We put out a weekly podcast which means that every year we're putting out close to 50 episodes, that's a lot of content to keep...
It's our 200th episode! And we wanted to celebrate by doing something that matters to Rebecca--and to so many of you. We wanted to read some back issues of Brio Magazine, the magazine for preteen and teen girls published by Focus on the Family that encapsulated purity...
Jane Austen has some great marriage advice! Or at least, some wonderful advice on HOW TO CHOOSE A SPOUSE. And for the last two podcasts of the season before we take a month off, we decided to record something that we wanted to talk about, something that we talk about...
Let's talk about how complementarians think marriage can go wrong! This month on the blog Keith's been writing up a series on the Danvers Statement, the codified statement of complementarianism that launched the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and that has...