What happens to women’s desire level if their husbands don’t do housework? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new...
Everyday I get emails, comments, and DMs about how our books are changing lives. Before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better I had written several other books. But the reaction is so starkly different. I’m hearing over and over again about lives...
Being the higher drive spouse can be really frustrating. You want to connect with your spouse, and you want to have a passionate marriage, but it seems like your spouse doesn't share those same desires. And that can feel like a rejection. This is the last post in the...
Adults need bedtimes, too. Seriously. I have talked to thousands of couples over the last few years at marriage conferences and at events, and I keep hearing stories about how "we never talk", or "we never do anything together", or even, "our sex life is almost...
Sex is supposed to be a great gift from God--and most of us would love to experience it as that great gift! But often we never seem to want it. We want to want it--but our bodies don't seem to cooperate. Our minds don't seem to cooperate. We wish we could feel more...
If you think 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 is a command for women to have sex on demand with their husbands, you've lost the plot. And not just that, but you have no business leading an SBC (Southern Baptist Convention) seminary where future SBC pastors are trained. But that's...
For the last three years I've been trying to change the evangelical conversation about sex. I've been pointing out how we went so very far off track with so much of our messaging in our best-sellers--focusing on men's satisfaction and ignoring women's; seeing sex as a...
For so many of us, sex is the greatest source of tension in our marriage. Now, sometimes it's for nefarious reasons, like a husband who uses pornography (or a wife who uses pornography). Sometimes there has been major betrayal, or the marriage is just really on the...
Let's talk about what influences your felt libido--what triggers you to want sex, and what triggers you to not want sex. We're starting our "What's Killing Women's Libido"? series, and on Monday we launched it looking at 15 things that can kill a woman's libido. Those...
What if male Christian authors are digging the very hole they're trying to climb out of--and killing women's libido? Welcome to June, everybody! And in June, our focus is going to be on libido, asking the question: "What's killing women's libido?" Now, I know there's...
Is lust really every man's battle? And how do we handle different libidos? It's launch week for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, and I wanted to save some of our most important findings from our men's survey for this special...
Just because you have a responsive libido doesn't mean you don't have a libido! I make this point repeatedly in our revamped Boost Your Libido course that launches next Monday, but I really want to drive this home today: Just because you don't have what we call a...
Welcome to the "what's killing women's libido?" series! In the month of June I want to look at some of the reasons that women's libido is often so low, and look at what we can do about that. Now, I know that many of you reading this blog have the opposite...
Just a super quick post today on why "equality" sometimes misses the boat when it comes to sexual pleasure. I use Tuesdays either to take a day off from writing the blog, or to share something super quick that's on my mind and I just want to write it out. I'm hoping...
Can we please change the way we talk about women not wanting to have sex? I've seen a few videos on TikTok lately where Christian men bemoan the fact that women stop wanting sex once they get married, and call this "emotional damage." I do agree that if a spouse...
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