The 72 Hour Rule is Made Up by Evangelical Authors. Yep. This month on the blog we're "fact checking" common sex beliefs, and one of the biggest ones in evangelical circles is the 72 hour rule: the idea that a wife must have sex with her husband every 72 hours,...
What happens to women’s desire level if their husbands don’t do housework? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new...
Everyday I get emails, comments, and DMs about how our books are changing lives. Before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better I had written several other books. But the reaction is so starkly different. I’m hearing over and over again about lives...
I was not kind to my body yesterday, and I am feeling it! When people used to complain about food insensitivities, I never really understood until it started happening to me. I've been having some real issues with gluten lately, and I've largely gone off of bread. But...
How do women’s hormone levels affect libido throughout the month? What role does contraception and menopause have in libido? Let’s look!
Our survey results have completely changed how we talk about sex. And that likely surprises absolutely no one. But what we weren’t expecting was how much it would keep changing how we talked about things with each new finding. It feels like every 6 weeks Joanna calls...
What if women don’t naturally want sex less than men do? Rebecca here again on the blog with another study for you! Researchers from the University of Toronto have come out with really interesting research about what impacts women’s enjoyment of sex. Note from...
What if sex doesn't start in the kitchen--but her libido can die there? Rebecca here on the blog today, and I want to tell you about a fascinating new study coming out of Australia. This is the first post in our research deep-dive series on the blog that will be...
What if there's something super simple you could do that could improve your mood and your marriage? I talked on Monday about rhythms in our lives--how to honor our bodies' rhythms, with the need for work and rest; for feasting and fasting. And I thought today we could...
God created life with natural rhythms. But I feel like much of the effort of modern life is to obliterate those rhythms. Two things got me thinking about this lately, and I'd like to tell you about them and then explore this further. Exhibit A: I had COVID....
Let's talk obligation sex--and how it's a terrible libido and marriage killer! This July I'm rerunning some of my favourite podcast episodes from about a year and a half ago or two years ago, to help those who have recently joined the podcast or blog catch up and make...
For every guy who has ever thought, "my wife hates sex," or, even worse, "my wife hates ME," I want to point you to some practical solutions. Usually I write this blog for women, but I do have a fair number of men who read it, and I get emails all the time from men...
It's the wrap up podcast for our What's Killing Women's Libido series! At the end of the month we like to record a podcast that's a little more aimed at men, and today we thought we'd wrap up what can cause women's libidos to plummet--and what men can do about it!...
Adults need bedtimes, too. Seriously. I have talked to thousands of couples over the last few years at marriage conferences and at events, and I keep hearing stories about how "we never talk", or "we never do anything together", or even, "our sex life is almost...
For so many of us, sex is the greatest source of tension in our marriage. Now, sometimes it's for nefarious reasons, like a husband who uses pornography (or a wife who uses pornography). Sometimes there has been major betrayal, or the marriage is just really on the...