Stinky and Kissing don't go together. A while ago I started a series on kissing, and got sidetracked by some huge news stories in evangelicalism (like the terrible article up at The Gospel Coalition, or Jonathan Pokluda objectifying women in a sermon). I have a few...
I’ve had some interesting discussions about how I’m shaming men with sex addictions by calling out the language Every Man’s Battle uses about women. This week we published our one sheet downloadwith the summary of issues with Every Man’s Battle (we also have one for...
Last week, there was a Twitter dust-up because megachurch pastor Jonathan Pokluda objectified women in a sermon. The clip went viral, and this tweet by @laurchastain22 (Lauren Chastain) made huge splashes among Christians:I'm so pleased that Baptist News allowed me to...
What does it mean to be a generous lover? A few years after we were married a read a magazine article by a woman who had vowed at their wedding day to never say no to her husband sexually. Whenever he wanted sex, she would give it. I was just coming out of a bad few...
What if your husband seems bored of sex--he never initiates, won't try new things, and just isn't enthusiastic? On Mondays I like to try to answer a reader question, and this one comes from a woman who is worried that her husband actually preferred sex with his...
Today a reader is asking, "how do you reset your sex life?" What if it's been really difficult in the past, but now you've recovered. Yet the dynamic still hasn't changed."I have read The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and am intrigued by the mention you make of the...
It's time for a new episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! And this week we're finishing up our series on how sex should be mutual--including working towards a new definition of sex. And consider this podcast "extras". If you want to go deeper into what I talked about...
What does it mean to have sex with your husband? That may seem like a silly question, but it's what I've been building up to on the blog and in my podcasts for the last few weeks. And here's why the definition matters: I believe that sex is an intrinsic and vital part...
You're allowed to say no to sex. Unfortunately that can be a radical thing to say in some church circles, and I've been writing lately about God created sex to be a mutual experience, not just a one-sided experience. Women's pleasure matters, too, and women's...
When I was first married, sex hurt. And I felt terribly guilty about that. Have you ever looked back on your younger self and thought, "what in the world was I thinking? Why did I do that?" I have. And there are parts of me, deep parts, that I am still trying to...
How often have you heard the "Do Not Deprive" verses, from 1 Corinthians 7, used to tell women they're not doing enough as a wife to keep their husbands sexually satisfied? Last month I conducted a poll on Twitter, where I asked: Which message have you heard more...
Are multiple orgasms a thing? And if so, how do you get there? This month I've been focusing the blog on the physical aspects of sex--both how to make it feel physically great, and also how to address some problems that you may be having. I talked about how to find...
Sometimes women have health conditions--like vaginismus, incontinence, or other pain--that a pelvic floor physiotherapist is uniquely qualified to help with. This month I want to cover more about how the female body actually works when it comes to sex, and frequently...
Does the G-spot exist? And what is it? Here at Bare Marriage (where we talk about how to make marriage and sex more than just chores!) I like to be a safe place to talk about sex. I know that there are some things that people want to know, but they're afraid to Google...
Kissing in marriage should be fun! But too often kissing stops once we're married. We see it as foreplay, and many women don't want to put a downpayment down on something they may not want to buy later, if you know what I mean. And many men don't see the point in...