Sometimes a kiss needs to just be a kiss. Mondays in February are all about kissing, and last week we started our series looking at why kissing sometimes falls by the wayside once you’re married. I listed 7 reasons kissing can stop, and then I asked you all which were...
What's Wrong with Vanilla Sex? Valentine's Day is coming up just around the corner, and that means that we're going to start to see lots and lots of articles about how to have hot sex. They will be on magazines. They will be in Christian media. How can you have the...
Christian leaders should not be trying to convince women to send nude photos. This doesn't seem like it should even have to be said, but earlier this week I put up a Fixed It for You of Gary Thomas' and Debra Fileta's book Married Sex, which had this sentence: Here's...
Sometimes we all need a little spice in our marriage! Has sex gotten kind of, well, stale? Do you want to try new things, but you're just embarrassed and feel awkward asking for them? Maybe you don't even know what you want--you just know there must be more out there....
Are you shy? I don’t mean scared at parties. I mean, do you have difficulty letting your husband know what feels good in bed? Even saying that probably made some of you blush! After all, sex isn’t really something we talk about very much. And it’s kind of embarrassing...
It's time for a new episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! I hope you all will listen, but if you don't have time, I'll have some links and rabbit trails below so you can read all you want as well! And consider these podcast "extras", too. I often refer to them in the...
I don't live in the moment well--and that can make sex more difficult. I'm a woman, and like most women, I have a million things going on in my head at any one time: What's for dinner tomorrow night (and did I remember to take something out of the freezer?); what...
Porn and anger go together, because porn doesn't just affect someone's sex drive. Porn affects personality, too. Last weekend I was speaking in Edmonton at the Breakforth conference on a cold, dark, freezing rain Sunday morning. The topic was "how porn wrecks intimacy...
What should you do if your fiance watches porn? Quite frankly, Porn destroys marriage. It rewires the brain so that what becomes arousing is an image, rather than a person. And it distorts people's sexuality, so that we concentrate solely on the physical aspects of...
Am I a lesbian? Is oral sex really okay? How do I trust my husband again? On Mondays I like to run reader questions and take a stab at answering them, but it's the end of the year pretty much and I have such a huge backlog that I thought I'd try to tackle 5 of them...
What do you do if you want sex--and your spouse doesn't? How do you NOT feel guilty for wanting sex? Every Monday I like to try to take a stab at answering a reader question. Sometimes I'll do it in video form (I hope to do one next week in video!), but this is one I...
I've written at length on the blog about why we should wait until marriage for sex, and why God made sex just for marriage. But sometimes I fear that in all of our talk about saving sex for marriage we forget that the biggest sexual temptation isn't always a physical...
Making love and having sex are not the same thing. One is far more profound. One is a deep love, a deep knowing. The other is simply about the physical act. This month on Wednesdays we're talking about different aspects of intimacy. I started by talking about the need...
The purity culture has been with us for a while--but some super interesting things are happening. And I want to share with you 10 trends that I'm keeping a watch on. But first--what is the purity culture? It's hard to define exactly, but it's a trend that, while it...
Do you feel like your husband doesn't care about your emotional needs? This month, on Wednesdays, we're talking about intimacy on three levels--emotional, spiritual, and physical, and how we can feel closer. Last Wednesday I introduced our theme for the month, talking...