Is there a way forward after obligation sex? If obligation sex has been the norm in your marriage, and if it's been affecting your libido and your marriage, what do you actually do about it? How do you recover from it? This month on the blog we've been looking at...
All the Latest from "Sexual Intimacy"
Older posts from "Sexual Intimacy"
Safety and Intimacy: You’ll Never Have an Intimate Sex Life without Feeling Safe First
Safety is a prerequisite to intimacy in a marriage. If she feels as if she has to earn safety sexually, with her body, she’ll never have real intimacy.
Here’s What Recovery from Sexual Problems Looks Like
When your sex life has evaporated, how do you recover? Here’s a 4-point plan to sexual recovery, emphasizing redefining sex and safety.
Redefining Sex: Seeing Sex as an Expression of your Relationship, Not as an Individual Need
If we don't put sex in its proper place, sex will become a drain on the relationship, rather than something that makes you feel closer. We're working this month on how to dig out of the pit you're in with your sex life, because many people have such deep and serious...
The Sex Recovery Series: 4 Point Plan to Rebuild Your Sex Life
How do you dig out of a pit you’ve dug for your sex life in marriage? A 4 point plan to rebuild sex, starting with reframing sex & making everyone feel safe.
RESEARCH DEEP DIVE: Bring Back Vanilla Sex!
What if the key to a great sex life was connection, not acrobatics? How the best sexual fulfillment is from intimacy not adventurousness.
PODCAST: Should Pastors Give Sex Advice?
What happens when pastors give sex advice, but they aren't trained to do so? This week's podcast we're talking about a big question: is it ever useful to expect pastors to give specific sex advice? What is a part of the pastor's job, and what simply isn't? If you want...
When God Is Grey, And plagiarism Isn’t
One of the big things I believe is that we should hold Christians to higher standards than those who do not claim Christ. We don't get to say, "well, I don't have to follow the rules because after all, I'm doing this for Jesus." We don't get to say, "because I'm...
Which Comes First: Great Sex or Emotional Connection?
If we want great sex...we may need to look OUTSIDE the bedroom for answers! Here's a stat that I shared on social media last night about the correlation between arousal and emotional connection:It's just one stat in a bigger chart in The Great Sex Rescue--which has...
Can We Honor Our Bodies’ Rhythms? And Why that May Mean Saying No to Sex Sometimes
God created life with natural rhythms. But I feel like much of the effort of modern life is to obliterate those rhythms. Two things got me thinking about this lately, and I'd like to tell you about them and then explore this further. Exhibit A: I had COVID....
10 Ways Hollywood Warps our Expectations about Sex
Has Hollywood totally messed up our sex lives? I talk a lot about how evangelical teaching has messed up our expectations around sex. But let's face it--a lot of those expectations are in movies and shows, too!Behind the scenes at the blog we're getting ready to move...
For the Guys: When Your Wife Hates Sex
For every guy who has ever thought, "my wife hates sex," or, even worse, "my wife hates ME," I want to point you to some practical solutions. Usually I write this blog for women, but I do have a fair number of men who read it, and I get emails all the time from men...
The Sexual Element in Spanking Children: Let’s Ask the Uncomfortable Questions
Can we talk about something hush hush? What if spanking kids is also a form of sexual assault? Hear me out on this one, okay? I've shared a number of social media posts and podcasts about spanking lately, including what the large meta-analysis of 160,000 children...