This week, Focus on the Family actually published something healthy. Now, before I go any further, this does not mean that I think they’re a healthy organization now. They still promote all the same unhealthy authors in their store. They still don’t condone divorce...
I have met the most incredible, insightful people over the last few years. For ten years, my circle online tended to be the typical Christian authors. I was friends with many of them. I blogged with people who supported their ministries. I was right in the middle of...
Last week, there was a Twitter dust-up because megachurch pastor Jonathan Pokluda objectified women in a sermon. The clip went viral, and this tweet by @laurchastain22 (Lauren Chastain) made huge splashes among Christians:I'm so pleased that Baptist News allowed me to...
Can we talk about something hush hush? What if spanking kids is also a form of sexual assault? Hear me out on this one, okay? I've shared a number of social media posts and podcasts about spanking lately, including what the large meta-analysis of 160,000 children...
God does not ask us to consent to selfish sex. In fact, one-sided intercourse is not sex. I can summarize The Great Sex Rescue by saying that sex is supposed to be MUTUAL, INTIMATE, and PLEASURABLE FOR BOTH. That's what God intended. Sex is not merely intercourse...
For the last three years I've been trying to change the evangelical conversation about sex. I've been pointing out how we went so very far off track with so much of our messaging in our best-sellers--focusing on men's satisfaction and ignoring women's; seeing sex as a...
The most damaging belief we found on our survey of 20,000 women was the obligation sex message. Getting married believing that a wife was obligated to give her husband sex when he wanted it resulted in much higher rates of sexual pain, lower orgasm rates, and lower...
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
After months of waiting, you can now get The Great Sex Rescue on audiobook! And it's actually me reading it, too. It took a long time for me to be able to record it, because we were in lockdown for quite a while here in Ontario. We came out of lockdown in March for...
The Bible does not tell women that they can't refuse sex if their husbands want it. This week, The Transformed Wife put up a video disputing what I've been saying about sex. I've been stressing that biblical sex is MUTUAL, INTIMATE, and PLEASURABLE, and that means...
I've been realizing lately I need to have compassion on younger me who was taught toxic stuff--and didn't know how to reject it. And as I shared yesterday in my "Fixed it for you" posts, sometimes I've even taught that toxic stuff myself! But when you know better, you...
What happens if we tell women that husbands are entitled to sex--no matter what? I'm a big proponent of sex in marriage. Most of what I write is about sex. I have a revamped version of 31 Days to Great Sex coming out this summer with Zondervan. I've created a course...
Is it ever OK for a husband to ask his wife to act like other women in order to be sexier? On Monday I asked what your thoughts were on a reader's question about her husband wanting her to be more sexy, and you had a lot of great thoughts! So thank you for...
When it comes to sex, are there some things that are best kept to yourself?So it's Tuesday, and I still can't type.(In fact, this is actually Rebecca writing out the post on Sheila's behalf again.)Normally we get our posts scheduled a few days ahead of time. But on...
When you discover that your husband is cheating on you, or using pornography, should you forgive right away and work on rebuilding the marriage? Or if you discover that your wife is cheating on you, should you put that aside for the sake of the marriage and work on...