More sex does not fix a marriage. In our study of 20,000 women for The Great Sex Rescue, we found that more sex made good marriages great. Good sex, in a healthy marriage, definitely helps that marriage thrive. But sex can’t fix a bad marriage. And, indeed, having bad...
Should women get to have a say in when they have sex? I would think that the answer to this is pretty obvious. I don't have time for a long post today, but I want to talk about a social media trend that's been occurring, I think because of my obligation sex series. ...
Is there a way forward after obligation sex? If obligation sex has been the norm in your marriage, and if it's been affecting your libido and your marriage, what do you actually do about it? How do you recover from it? This month on the blog we've been looking at...
When it comes to sex, are there some things that are best kept to yourself?So it's Tuesday, and I still can't type.(In fact, this is actually Rebecca writing out the post on Sheila's behalf again.)Normally we get our posts scheduled a few days ahead of time. But on...
When you discover that your husband is cheating on you, or using pornography, should you forgive right away and work on rebuilding the marriage? Or if you discover that your wife is cheating on you, should you put that aside for the sake of the marriage and work on...
Kissing in marriage should be fun! But too often kissing stops once we're married. We see it as foreplay, and many women don't want to put a downpayment down on something they may not want to buy later, if you know what I mean. And many men don't see the point in...
I've written at length on the blog about why we should wait until marriage for sex, and why God made sex just for marriage. But sometimes I fear that in all of our talk about saving sex for marriage we forget that the biggest sexual temptation isn't always a physical...
Making love and having sex are not the same thing. One is far more profound. One is a deep love, a deep knowing. The other is simply about the physical act. This month on Wednesdays we're talking about different aspects of intimacy. I started by talking about the need...
Do you feel like your husband doesn't care about your emotional needs? This month, on Wednesdays, we're talking about intimacy on three levels--emotional, spiritual, and physical, and how we can feel closer. Last Wednesday I introduced our theme for the month, talking...
What does it mean if your wife says you never make love? Every Monday I like to film an "Ask Sheila" video, and today's is a sad one from a husband whose wife doesn't want sex--and who feels that they are drifting apart. He writes:My wife and I married 18 years ago....
How do you have sex with your husband if he has a big belly? That may seem like a little out of the ordinary for a Reader Question of the Week, but it's amazing how often I get it. Not to intentionally make a pun, but this is a big problem. When your husband is too...
What do you do if your husband always leaves you hanging in bed? He's satisfied, but you're left frustrated? Every Monday I like to answer a Reader Question, and today's is about what happens when the husband always reaches orgasm but makes no effort to see that his...
Is masturbation in marriage wrong? For some reason I've received a rash of emails this week from women who are at their wits' end. They'd like to have sex more regularly. They'd like to feel intimate in their marriages. But their husbands seem to prefer masturbation...
Wondering how to spice up your marriage? You've come to the right place! We're 3/4 done the 29 Days to Great Sex, a series I wrote leading up to the release of my book, The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (which is now available)! We've worked on how to change your...