What's Wrong with Vanilla Sex? Valentine's Day is coming up just around the corner, and that means that we're going to start to see lots and lots of articles about how to have hot sex. They will be on magazines. They will be in Christian media. How can you have the...
We need to deal with our double standards of sexual expectations in marriage. This month we're looking at entitlement in marriage, and how the entitlement mentality can kill a marriage. One of the things we were talking about last week was that reasonable expectations...
We all want amazing lives filled with joy and passion and wholeness. Who wouldn't want that? But too often that is not what people experience. I've been sitting in my yellow chair trying to write the final post for our "digging yourself out of the pit" series, and...
Kissing in marriage should be fun! But too often kissing stops once we're married. We see it as foreplay, and many women don't want to put a downpayment down on something they may not want to buy later, if you know what I mean. And many men don't see the point in...
I've written at length on the blog about why we should wait until marriage for sex, and why God made sex just for marriage. But sometimes I fear that in all of our talk about saving sex for marriage we forget that the biggest sexual temptation isn't always a physical...
Making love and having sex are not the same thing. One is far more profound. One is a deep love, a deep knowing. The other is simply about the physical act. This month on Wednesdays we're talking about different aspects of intimacy. I started by talking about the need...
Do you feel like your husband doesn't care about your emotional needs? This month, on Wednesdays, we're talking about intimacy on three levels--emotional, spiritual, and physical, and how we can feel closer. Last Wednesday I introduced our theme for the month, talking...
What does it mean if your wife says you never make love? Every Monday I like to film an "Ask Sheila" video, and today's is a sad one from a husband whose wife doesn't want sex--and who feels that they are drifting apart. He writes:My wife and I married 18 years ago....
Massage can supercharge your marriage. It helps you both relax. It helps you both transition from "busy day" to relaxing with your spouse. It gets rid of tension. And it makes you touch one another! So thank you to Denis from MELT Massage for Couples for sponsoring...
How do you have sex with your husband if he has a big belly? That may seem like a little out of the ordinary for a Reader Question of the Week, but it's amazing how often I get it. Not to intentionally make a pun, but this is a big problem. When your husband is too...
What do you do if your husband always leaves you hanging in bed? He's satisfied, but you're left frustrated? Every Monday I like to answer a Reader Question, and today's is about what happens when the husband always reaches orgasm but makes no effort to see that his...
Is masturbation in marriage wrong? For some reason I've received a rash of emails this week from women who are at their wits' end. They'd like to have sex more regularly. They'd like to feel intimate in their marriages. But their husbands seem to prefer masturbation...
Wondering how to spice up your marriage? You've come to the right place! We're 3/4 done the 29 Days to Great Sex, a series I wrote leading up to the release of my book, The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (which is now available)! We've worked on how to change your...