Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
PODCAST: Rebecoming–Figuring Out Why You’re Stuck
What if you could have therapy--with just a book? And what if that book could help you understand all the therapy terms you hear, like trauma, Stone...
Learning to Be Kind When the Body Keeps the Score
My son Christopher died 28 years ago today. That's such a strange phrase to say--"My son Christopher died." I remember practising saying it when he...
Young Women Are STILL Fleeing the EVANGELICAL Church
Women have pretty much always attended church more than men. Christianity started off as a religion of “women and slaves”, which was a common insult...
PODCAST: Making Faith More Tangible in the Holy Everyday
Ever feel like faith and holiness are out of reach? You want to look like Jesus, but you know you need to pray more. Read your Bible more. Do more...
Was Purity Culture All Bad?
Should we be nuanced about the effects of purity culture? On episode 247 of The Bare Marriage Podcast, we decided to open things up to all of you to...
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It’s Not All Sin: The Problem with Over-Spiritualizing our Problems
Sin isn't the cause of all the bad or counterproductive things we do. And blaming it on sin does harm. When you have the wrong diagnosis, you're...
Are 70% of Divorces Really Caused by Women Divorcing Frivolously?
Are women getting divorced frivolously, for no reason? For some reason, there’s been a big uptick in social media accounts quoting two statistics:...
PODCAST: Are 70% of Divorces Due to Women Leaving for No Reason?
Are women divorcing left and right for no reason? Lately I've seen an uptick on social media sharing two "facts": Women initiate 70% of divorces In...
How Churches Treat Women Who Divorced for Abuse
Divorced women are not finding evangelical churches to be welcoming places. Despite the fact that many women endured years of trying to make their...
How Can the Higher Drive Spouse Avoid Giving the Obligation Sex Message?
Being the higher drive spouse can be really frustrating. You want to connect with your spouse, and you want to have a passionate marriage, but it...
Is It Abuse? How do You Accept that You’re in an Abusive Marriage?
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to admit to ourselves when we're in an abusive marriage. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and...
PODCAST: Bullied for Leaving an Abusive Marriage with Naghmeh Panahi
I first heard of Naghmeh Panahi when she was campaigning to get her husband Saeed, a pastor, released from an Iranian prison. I saw her on the news,...
10 Ways Men Can Initiate Sex with Their Wives (Without pressuring her)
How do you initiate sex with your wife without turning her off? We've been working through an obligation sex series for the last few weeks, and one...
PODCAST: Unwanted Sexual Behaviors and What To Do About Them (with Jay Stringer)
Is there hope for recovery for unwanted sexual behaviors, fantasies, or compulsions? I've been wanting to do this podcast for ages! I love Jay...
When He Deliberately Ignores Your Pleasure: What to Do When Sex Has Become One-Sided
Sex must be mutual, about both people’s pleasure. What if he insists on sex that doesn’t bring her pleasure, and doesn’t try to help her reach orgasm?
Safety and Intimacy: You’ll Never Have an Intimate Sex Life without Feeling Safe First
Safety is a prerequisite to intimacy in a marriage. If she feels as if she has to earn safety sexually, with her body, she’ll never have real intimacy.
Here’s What Recovery from Sexual Problems Looks Like
When your sex life has evaporated, how do you recover? Here’s a 4-point plan to sexual recovery, emphasizing redefining sex and safety.
PODCAST: A Deep Dive into Ephesians 5–Why Hierarchy in Marriage Doesn’t Work
A look at Ephesians 5, and how Paul isn’t prescribing hierarchy in marriage. He’s actually showing what mutual submission looks like.
Redefining Sex: Seeing Sex as an Expression of your Relationship, Not as an Individual Need
If we don't put sex in its proper place, sex will become a drain on the relationship, rather than something that makes you feel closer. We're...
The Sex Recovery Series: 4 Point Plan to Rebuild Your Sex Life
How do you dig out of a pit you’ve dug for your sex life in marriage? A 4 point plan to rebuild sex, starting with reframing sex & making everyone feel safe.
RESEARCH DEEP DIVE: Bring Back Vanilla Sex!
What if the key to a great sex life was connection, not acrobatics? How the best sexual fulfillment is from intimacy not adventurousness.
PODCAST: 3 Ways to Talk about Libido Differences
We usually talk about libido differences in terms of high vs. low. Who has the higher libido? Who has the lower libido? And are these the best ways...
Practical Ways Christian Marriage Teachers Can “Do No Harm”
Often Christian Marriage teachers say “this is only for spouses in good marriages.” But spouses in destructive marriages listen! Here’s how to help all without harming some.
10 Things To Know about Hormones and Libido
How do women’s hormone levels affect libido throughout the month? What role does contraception and menopause have in libido? Let’s look!
The Amazing Step-Parents We Only Have Because of Divorce
When churches and denominations deny people the chance to divorce for abuse, they also deny kids the chance to grow up with amazing step-parents. I...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!