Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
The Roller Coaster of Emotions that is Live, Laugh, Love
Learning how the sausage is made is not always a pleasant experience. But ignorance isn’t always bliss. And knowing the truth is fascinating, and...
Biblical Womanhood Is Basically the Fawn Trauma Response (You Can Pre-Order Now!)
Fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Those are the common responses we have to trauma. When we face a threat, our body may go into fight mode. We may try...
PODCAST: Look Like a Lady–5 Visual Tropes of Womanhood that Keep Women Small
What does it mean to look like a lady? One of the fun part about my job is that I get to read books that I wouldn't otherwise hear of--books that...
How Evangelical Women Navigate Sexual Pain Disorders: New Peer Reviewed Paper!
Ever felt like God was your pimp? I know that's an inflammatory statement, but I've heard this sentiment from so many evangelical women that we've...
PODCAST: Love Like a Mother
Have you ever felt like God was more like some than others? When you're a woman, and God is always talked about as male, it can make it seem like...
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Was Every Man’s Battle an Improvement on What Came Before?
"Sure it was harmful--but it was still an improvement!" Or was it? That's the pushback that I often get when I critique evangelical sex and marriage...
How Evangelical Sex Teachings Obscured the Red Flags in Death of a Pastor’s Wife
The strangest thing about watching Netflix’s Death of a Pastor’s Wife is how familiar it all feels. Our family has been attending an Anglican Church...
PODCAST: If Men Are the Protectors, Why Do They Want Women to Do Risky Things?
When women are vulnerable, abuse can flourish And it's a problem that so much advice to evangelical women today is aimed at making women extremely...
Sexual Double Standards: We Expect So Much More from Women Than From Men–Which leads to Male Entitlement
Evangelicalism has huge double standards of sexual expectations in marriage. One of the things we tried to drive home in The Marriage You Want is...
Why Does Evangelicalism Pit Husbands Against Babies?
One of the most common pieces of marriage advice you’ll hear in evangelical circles is “your husband comes before the kids.” It’s constant, and...
PODCAST: The Problems with The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle
The Emowered Wife is really, really bad. Like horrifically bad. It basically tells women to self-erase and self-censor in order to make husbands...
The Problems with The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle: A Review with Download
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is...
What if the Aim of Complementarianism is the Lack of Accountability for Men?
Is the aim of complementarianism to give men leadership over women? Most complementarians would eventually say yes, even if reluctantly. They would...
PODCAST: If Men Are Leaders, Why Do They Need Women to Fix Them?
Ever noticed how much evangelical marriage advice treats men like little boys? And the solution that helps men mature and grow up is women? But...
The Story of Two Pastors Defending Marital Rape
I'm often surprised what sexist pastors will say in public comments on social media. This week I've been posting quite a bit on Facebook about the...
How The Navigators Normalized Marital Rape
Let's look at how specific discipleship materials actually enable marital rape. But first, a bit of background. Last week on my Substack I re-ran a...
PODCAST: What Would Accountability for Purity Culture Authors Look Like?
Will we ever hear an apology from Dannah Gresh and others? We're wrapping up our 3-episode arc on the Bare Marriage podcast this week, looking at...
How Do You Measure the “Good Fruit” of Marriage Teaching?
Evangelical marriage teachers are changing the meaning of “good fruit” when it comes to marriage teaching—largely because of us. We’ve successfully...
PODCAST: Good Fruit–Are We Measuring It Right When it Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?
How do you actually measure the "good fruit" of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we've been criticized for saying that it's good fruit...
Purity Culture Authors Need to Apologize. Here’s Why They Won’t.
We had four lawsuit threats the week that The Great Sex Rescue was published. Authors were upset that we had quoted their works and showed them in a...
PODCAST: Purity Culture Authors Are Rewriting History (Case Study of Dannah Gresh)
Dannah Gresh is Rewriting And the Bride Wore White. But is she apologizing for all the harmful things she wrote before? Is she acknowledging that...
A Letter to SBC Women: It’s Time to Go
This has been a tough but clarifying week for the North American evangelical church. The Southern Baptist Convention, the largest Protestant...
PODCAST: Keith and Sheila Respond to crazy clips (Is it That Jezebel Spirit Again?)
Let's react to pastors, influencers, and more! One of the things that we like to do periodically is play some of the horrid reels that get sent to...
Alisa Childers Owes Evangelical Women an Apology for Dismissing Their Pain
Alisa Childers recently critiqued The Great Sex Rescue on her podcast. Childers calls herself an apologist. She became well-known in Christian...
Can Complementarians Have Great Sex?
Is it necessary to critique complementarianism to help people have a better sex life? One of the critiques I get at Bare Marriage is that I'd be...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!