Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
PODCAST: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talk Lust and Sex!
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and...
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to...
Casual Sex the Christian Way
In Christian marriage advice, sex is supposed to be deeply intimate--until it's not. Here's what happens: Before marriage, Christians are told that...
PODCAST: The Problems with For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn
For Men Only presents such a sad view of marriage! Written by Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff, it's a companion book for her best-seller For...
Women Have Agency: You Don’t Have to Obey Churches or Husbands Who Want to Control You
Yesterday I had a message from a woman being summoned in to defend herself to a toxic elders' board. She had been going to a very hierarchical,...
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Anger vs. Pity: What Is the Appropriate Emotion to Those Espousing Male Hierarchy?
What if pity is actually a good strategy? And what if pity reveals a bit of God's heart too? Let me tell you about something that blew my mind...
PODCAST: I Belong to Me with Tia Levings
How do yo find yourself again after emerging from fundamentalism? Many of us have had religious trauma from our church upbringing, or a...
When Trauma from Sexual Dynamics in Marriage Hits You Decades Later
It's moving day for me! We're leaving our house of 19 years and heading to our new place! So I wanted to share something different today. So many...
Do Women Care about Men’s Appearance?
Are women visually oriented? What we usually hear in the church is that God made men to be visual (the Every Man's Battle authors say that God made...
PODCAST: Who Bears the Mental Load for Sex?
Women have a harder time enjoying sex--so why is the mental load left to her? Today on the podcast we play a bunch of clips of different...
How Eric and Leslie Ludy Equated the Rape of a 12-Year-Old with “Losing Her Virginity”
Eric and Leslie Ludy completely distort the trauma of sexual assault This husband and wife team (who got together first when he was 21 and she was...
What If There’s More Jesus in Decluttering Shows Than in Some Churches?
Sometimes Jesus shows up in weird places--like cleaning shows. I want to do something different today and let you in a bit on my personal faith...
PODCAST: How to Vet a Church’s Website to See if They’re Healthy
Can you tell from a church's website if they're healthy? Not necessarily. But you sure can weed out a lot of unhealthy ones! So if you're trying to...
A Step-By-Step Guide to Vetting a Church’s Website to See if It’s Healthy
Can you tell if a church is healthy using its website? Absolutely! Or at least you can make a pretty good start and eliminate a lot of obviously...
What I’ve Noticed About Scripture in Evangelical vs. Anglican Churches
I've been thinking about the lectionary this Easter holiday. It's still a holiday here in Canada, and I'll be taking most of the day to relax and...
PODCAST: Why Is Every Man’s Battle So Creepy? Plus Benevolent vs. Hostile Sexism
Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes....
Why Can’t the Every Man’s Battle Authors Acknowledge Sexual Assault Victims? 2 Horrifying Examples
Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker ignore abuse victims in Every Man's Battle. They never talk about the reality of sexual abuse, or acknowledge that...
NEW RESEARCH: Modesty Messages Groom Boys to Become Predators
Teaching modesty messages makes church more dangerous for teen girls. That's what our newest paper, out in the Journal for the Scientific Study of...
PODCAST: New Research on Modesty Messages, Sexual Harassment in Church, Plus We Answer Your Questions!
We've got a new research paper on modesty messaging coming out! We've been working behind the scenes on a number of different peer reviewed papers,...
Let’s Dissect the Roots of the Duggars’ Pedophilia
Another Duggar son has been charged with sexually abusing a child. This time it’s Joseph Duggar, the seventh born and third son. (I wrote this piece...
PODCAST: Adult ADHD, Marriage, and Gender Roles!
Let’s talk ADHD and marriage! What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a...
Why Complementarianism Isn’t Actually About Men Really Leading
I've seen so many social media complementarian messages telling women to take the initiative to fix things. One particular one accused women of...
Who Is the Real Victim When Men Lust? Every Man’s Battle Says It’s Men!
Why is lust a sin? That may seem like a silly question, because it's obvious, right? It's LUST. And lust is bad. But seriously--what, specifically,...
PODCAST: Did Purity Culture Cause Developmental Trauma?
Why do evangelical women see sex as a chore? We're doing a fun podcast today where I'm combining a whole bunch of different things that I've been...
Defeating Complementarianism Is Not Just an Intellectual Exercise
Preston Sprinkle's new book comes out in favour of egalitarianism! I'm honestly so relieved. I heard about From Genesis to Junia a few months ago,...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!