Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
Eve in Exile by Rebekah Merkle: The Onesheets Spread!
Doug Wilson's daughter Rebekah Merkle peddles patriarchy in Eve in Exile And not just patriarchy, but downright misogyny.I haven't taken a look at...
PODCAST: The Problems with His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
Let's talk about His Needs, Her Needs! Today, for episode 284, we're joined by Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende, who took one for the team and read...
The Problems with the Book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
Let's look at His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley But first... One of the things we’re passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help...
A Postmortem on the Damage a Marriage Book Can Do
How do Christian marriage books harm? We talk a lot at Bare Marriage about how Christian marriage books can harm people, often by teaching toxic...
PODCAST: Did the Church Steal Your Sex Life? What If Church Isn’t Safe feat. Andrew Bauman
Is the Evangelical Church a Safe Place for Women? Today we're joined by Dr. Andrew Bauman, with his new book Safe Church, based on his research into...
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How Do You Make Decisions When You Disagree—Without a Tie-Breaker?
In marriage, should husbands make the final decision if the couple can’t reach agreement? Many Christians would say yes. In fact, in our survey of...
Men’s Comfort vs. Women’s Safety: Why Evangelicals Need Nuance
Sheila here! Did you know that every Friday about 45,000 people get an email from us, written by Rebecca? And more people read her article than read...
PODCAST: Why Are Evangelical women REfusing to Marry Evangelical Men?
Evangelical men can't get married. And it's all women's fault, according to Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. It's a...
Are Romance Novels Women’s Equivalent to Porn?
Is reading romance novels the same as watching porn? When I call out watching porn, I inevitably get some commenters (usually men) complaining that...
To Be Known and To Know: The Grace of Partnership in Marriage
I've been doing podcast interviews about our new book The Marriage You Want all over the place! And one that I landed last week was the Shifting...
PODCAST: Emotions Aren’t Feminine (and Men Should Be Emotionally Healthy Too)
Women aren't more emotional and men more logical That's the rhetoric that we often hear, but men are just as emotional as women--they just don't...
Should You Prioritize Sex? Why Frequency Is the Wrong Measure
You shouldn't prioritize sex in your marriage. That's how we open chapter four of our new book The Marriage You Want. Instead, we argue, you should...
Our Attitude to Women in MInistry is the Exception, Not the Rule
with thanks to Brazos Press and Becoming the Pastor's Wife for sponsoring this post My grandparents met in Bible college. It was the 1930s in...
PODCAST: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells us About Marriage (And Mental Load!)
What if there's a Bigger problem in marriage than sex or money? We always hear that the two biggest issues in marriage are sex and money, right?...
Should Marriage Make You Holy or Happy?
Is marriage primarily about teaching you to be selfless and to grow like Jesus through suffering? I hope you would all say a resounding, “no!” We...
How Do We Judge a Tree by Its Fruit with Marriage Advice?
How exactly do we judge something by its fruit? One of the things we’re adamant about here at Bare Marriage is the concept of “evidence-based” and...
PODCAST: Should You Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom? And why Date Nights Aren’t Always the Answer
Is being a good wife in conflict with being a good mom? And what does it look like to prioritize your marriage? Episode 270 of Bare Marriage!
Expectations in Marriage: 4 Things You Should Expect from Your Spouse
Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? On Monday on the blog (and last Friday on Substack--are you following me there yet?) I was talking...
He’d Die for You. But Will He Do the Dishes?
"The husband has to be prepared to die for his wife." One of the most bizarre arguments defending men being in authority over women is the idea that...
PODCAST: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs–and Why Compromise Often Backfires
If you're in conflict, you just compromise, right? Well, not necessarily! Here's the thing: compromise only works if you're starting from an even...
What’s the Difference Between a “Christian Marriage” and a Good Marriage?
How do you have a Christian marriage? And is a healthy Christian marriage different from a healthy marriage of two non-Christians? A woman wrote in...
Why Complementarianism Is Part of the Bad Outcomes Package for Marriage
Does complementarianism lead to good marriage outcomes? I'm going to answer that question in this post, but I want you to keep something in the back...
PODCAST: Why Teamwork Works Better Than Hierarchy
When it comes to marriage, teamwork is associated with all the good stuff! Hierarchy, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad stuff. We...
What Makes a Good Marriage?
What do we mean by “a good marriage”? When we say, “I want a good marriage”, what, exactly, are we talking about? A marriage that lasts 50 years? A...
What if Emerson Eggerichs is Asking Men to look nothing like Jesus?
What if Emerson Eggerichs is asking men to look nothing like Jesus? Let’s ask a question: What’s the goal of the Christian life? Is it to look more...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!