Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs is a best-selling, but problematic, book. Love & Respect is the most-used marriage curriculum in North American churches. It came on our radar in 2019, and when we read it we saw some major problems. After posting about those...
Christian leaders should not be trying to convince women to send nude photos. This doesn't seem like it should even have to be said, but earlier this week I put up a Fixed It for You of Gary Thomas' and Debra Fileta's book Married Sex, which had this sentence: Here's...
It's a new year of podcasts--and Lucy Maud Montgomery joins us for the first one! In her book The Making of Biblical Womanhood, Beth Allison Barr makes the case that the idea that God created the genders with different roles, where men are to lead and women are merely...
What happens when the church promotes the idea that "all men struggle with lust"? We've got an all new RESEARCH DEEP DIVE podcast for you this week! Connor and I (Rebecca) are back bringing you some information about a new study that's out that is incredibly...
How many of us have heard a grown man grumble about what a teenager is wearing, saying “She knows what she’s doing”? Rebecca here on the blog, bringing you another dose of data from new research we haven’t reviewed on the blog yet! This one is super interesting, and...
Why are there some people who we WON'T call out, even though they promote harmful teachings? Every Friday, Rebecca writes practically a whole new blog post for our weekly newsletter. This is one she wrote from September, and I thought we'd share it on the blog to give...
Our survey results have completely changed how we talk about sex. And that likely surprises absolutely no one. But what we weren’t expecting was how much it would keep changing how we talked about things with each new finding. It feels like every 6 weeks Joanna calls...
You don't have to have a destructive marriage to be hurt by bad marriage advice. We're ending up our series on Marriage Misdiagnosis, looking at how all too often Christian marriage advice misdiagnoses the problem, and gives the wrong solution. We've talked a lot...
When Christian marriage advice goes wrong, we can end up following it to the letter--and failing our spouses. In the summer, when Rebecca and I were talking about this, one long-time reader sent me in her story, which illustrates this well, and I saved it to run...
If you just have enough faith, and if you just pray enough, then shouldn't God save your marriage? The first women's Bible study I ever went to, I think right around the time Rebecca was born, was for the book Power of a Praying Wife. The book has sold 8,000,000...
We have an addiction to fairytales--even when it comes to marriage. We love the Disney princesses who are rescued by the princes. We love stories of redemption. And we love our miracles! But sometimes I fear that our love and longing for the extraordinary is used in...
You guys! Guess what happened! Christianity Today actually covered The Great Sex Rescue--and it was phenomenal! A few weeks ago, just after we recorded the podcast about how the authors we critique have been either ignoring us or doubling down and saying awful things,...
We're talking Marriage Misdiagnosis in the month of September--how all too often the evangelical church especially gets the problem WRONG when it comes to marriage, and then the solutions proposed end up making things worse. Last week we started looking at why...
What if the reason that our evangelical marriage advice often doesn't work is because we're aiming for the wrong thing? And because we're aiming for the wrong thing--we've got the wrong solutions? Welcome to our Marriage Misdiagnosis series! This month we're going to...
On Sunday it will be 26 years since my son Christopher died. I like to remember him on some way on the blog around that time, and since Monday is a holiday, I'd like to do it today. I wrote a piece back in 2016 that meant something to me. I was trying to explain why I...