We have an addiction to fairytales--even when it comes to marriage. We love the Disney princesses who are rescued by the princes. We love stories of redemption. And we love our miracles! But sometimes I fear that our love and longing for the extraordinary is used in...
You guys! Guess what happened! Christianity Today actually covered The Great Sex Rescue--and it was phenomenal! A few weeks ago, just after we recorded the podcast about how the authors we critique have been either ignoring us or doubling down and saying awful things,...
We're talking Marriage Misdiagnosis in the month of September--how all too often the evangelical church especially gets the problem WRONG when it comes to marriage, and then the solutions proposed end up making things worse. Last week we started looking at why...
I am very, very tired of the "don't be a stumbling block" argument when it comes to modesty for girls. I know that this is a very widespread debate, and I have talked about it before in two main posts: My 40% Modesty Rule Why Don't Be a Stumbling Block is a Really Bad...
Hey, everybody! Keith and I have been on vacation this week, just camping and hanging out and doing a whole lot of nothing. He had something on his mind yesterday and wrote up this post that he wanted to share! So here's what he's thinking about when he has time to...
On the a vacation we took just over a decade ago, I started knitting a blanket. It was what knitters call a "sock yarn blanket", meaning that it's made from all the ends of balls you have after you've finished a pair of socks. For twenty years I've been knitting...
Can we talk about how our messages about a woman's role can actually undermine her safety? Just a quick catch-up for today's post! I want to share a few things I've seen on social media and then throw this open for discussion. I'm taking a bit of a downtime this week...
Many of us grew up with toxic faith. I just hope you know you can heal and grow! Did you all see the Humans of New York posts yesterday? Everyone was sending them to me! It was a 15-post story about a woman who "wasn't the first preacher's wife to run away." It's all...
Sometimes church is a toxic place. Not always. Not even usually! Study after study has found that religiosity actually helps people, and people who go to church tend to have better mental health, better relationships, and better lives overall. HOWEVER--and that's a...
Have people ever tried to silence you simply because you're a woman? The summer when I was 16 years old, I went on a Teen Missions International team to the Philippines. It was not a good experience. While I know that some enjoyed their time with Teen Missions, I...
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
Sheila here! My husband Keith's manifesto on Wednesday about how the evangelical church has treated women went quite big, and he has one more thing he'd like to say. This all fits well in what we're talking about this month about putting the "Christ" back in...
Most of us agree that you shouldn't have to submit to an abusive husband. But what if you're married to a good husband? I get lots of emails from women who believe in hierarchy in marriage, where the woman submits her will to her husband and follows his decisions....
My husband told me yesterday that I was in the middle of the "long dark night of the soul." We went down to a winery to celebrate our anniversary and we were just talking about the last year, and where we're at now emotionally and where we think we'll end up in five...
It's time for our next Start Your Engines podcast--the one where we talk more specifically to the guys! Of course it's always interesting for women, too, but we tend to bring Keith and Connor on more and we save up our guys' reader questions! Today on the podcast,...