Seven summers ago I told the truth about lust for the first time. I broke with the program. Up until then, my main focus on the blog had been how to have a good marriage and how to have a good sex life. But in June of 2017, I wrote a week on the blog about the...
Every Friday, around 42,000 people receive our weekly email, linking to all of this week’s posts and podcasts, with a summary, so people can make sure they don’t miss anything they’re interested in. The email is written by Rebecca–not me. And these are often just...
This new research about cheating is fascinating. It was published online just on Tuesday, and I've already incorporated it into the marriage book we're editing right now that's due at the publishers next week! But listen to this:The evidence from this study exposes...
Sex would be so much easier if our bodies would just do what we want them to do, wouldn't it? Or if our minds would just get "in the game" when it was time? Welcome to our Embodiment Series, where we're talking about the mind-body connection. We're going to start in...
This was a week where postpartum hand jobs were debated on Facebook a TON--and it was super interesting. On Friday I'm starting to do a round-up of the best of my social media platforms this week, for those of you who may have missed it. Often the best content is on...
I'd like to begin a longer, ongoing conversation today about arousal non-concordance. To begin, a quick story. As a teen I always won the game Balderdash. Remember that game? You get a bizarre weird word, and everyone has to make up a definition for it, and then you...
How do you feel about advice that tells postpartum women to care for their husbands' sexual needs? I don't write big posts on Tuesdays anymore, but consider this one a prelude to Thursday's podcast (yes, we're releasing one on Thanksgiving because it isn't...
The "All men struggle with lust" message is a toxic one. On Tuesday I don't write blog posts anymore--but I published something on Facebook this morning that I thought I'd move over here as well! Yesterday I asked in my Instagram stories how the "All men struggle with...
If you've read The Great Sex Rescue, it may have opened your eyes to so much that's holding you back. But where do you go from here?Sheila here! Today Dr. Camden Morgante, a clinical psychologist and good friend, is joining us to suggest next steps after reading The...
There's a myth that sexual confidence and being adventurous in bed are synonyms. I think they're related, but only tangentially, and I think the fact that we equate them is part of the problem. In October and November we're talking about sexual confidence. We've...
Have you ever noticed that when we talk about oral sex in the Christian community, we usually frame it as something he wants and she should give? In that now infamous Edinburgh sermon that went viral, for instance, Mark Driscoll talked about how a woman should...
I've often said that the higher drive wife carries a lot of burdens that other permutations of libido do not. It can be very difficult to be a husband married to a woman who doesn't want sex, but at least that's culturally expected. As a woman, we grow up hearing how...
The way we feel about our bodies can cause our libido to crater. And when you feel schlubby (I love that word!), it's hard to want to get it on. I get the best stuff sent to me from readers, and last week a reader passed along an article from the Wall Street Journal...
There's a very line between way TMI and just sharing educational information. And in today's Start Your Engines Podcast (we like to take the last Thursday of every month and dedicate it to a podcast that men would be interested in as well), we try to show how men and...
With thanks to Femallay, our sponsor for the sexual confidence series. I hate hot flashes. Even your hands sweat. The back of your neck gets clammy. You want to strip in public–which is generally not a good idea. You start to forget things. I’m starting to make...