I think it's time to talk more about orgasm! We spend a lot of time at Bare Marriage showing how BAD teaching can lead us to really bad outcomes--no sexual pleasure; distance in marriage; even sexual pain. But we don't just want to show you what can mess you up. We...
What if there's a thread running through obligation sex and normalizing men's lust? Or rather, what if there are multiple threads? When we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, based on our surveys of 20,000 women, we identified four big teachings about sex that are common in...
Sheila here! Recently I saw a great post on Instagram by my friend Shari Smith, who handles a lot of my social media behind the scenes (she’s been a big help with my Facebook page getting hacked this week–PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE follow our new page!). Shari wrote a...
More podcasts dropped, a dust up on Facebook, and all about the birds and the bees! It's been a big week on social media and podcasts. Although, honestly, every Friday as I go to write these round-ups I realize it's been a big week, and maybe I should just slow down a...
Once again, Focus on the Family is promoting an article that places the blame on you if your spouse cheats. They're advertising an older article on their Facebook page right now where it encourages you to look for "vulnerabilities" in your marriage to see if it's...
I've had a very strange week of defending myself from attacks I didn't know were coming. I shared a little bit about this in yesterday's podcast at the end (my little devotional, or whatever you want to call it), but this was a very emotionally draining week. To...
Sex would be so much easier if our bodies would just do what we want them to do, wouldn't it? Or if our minds would just get "in the game" when it was time? Welcome to our Embodiment Series, where we're talking about the mind-body connection. We're going to start in...
This was a week where postpartum hand jobs were debated on Facebook a TON--and it was super interesting. On Friday I'm starting to do a round-up of the best of my social media platforms this week, for those of you who may have missed it. Often the best content is on...
I'd like to begin a longer, ongoing conversation today about arousal non-concordance. To begin, a quick story. As a teen I always won the game Balderdash. Remember that game? You get a bizarre weird word, and everyone has to make up a definition for it, and then you...
How do you feel about advice that tells postpartum women to care for their husbands' sexual needs? I don't write big posts on Tuesdays anymore, but consider this one a prelude to Thursday's podcast (yes, we're releasing one on Thanksgiving because it isn't...
The "All men struggle with lust" message is a toxic one. On Tuesday I don't write blog posts anymore--but I published something on Facebook this morning that I thought I'd move over here as well! Yesterday I asked in my Instagram stories how the "All men struggle with...
If you've read The Great Sex Rescue, it may have opened your eyes to so much that's holding you back. But where do you go from here?Sheila here! Today Dr. Camden Morgante, a clinical psychologist and good friend, is joining us to suggest next steps after reading The...
There's a myth that sexual confidence and being adventurous in bed are synonyms. I think they're related, but only tangentially, and I think the fact that we equate them is part of the problem. In October and November we're talking about sexual confidence. We've...
Have you ever noticed that when we talk about oral sex in the Christian community, we usually frame it as something he wants and she should give? In that now infamous Edinburgh sermon that went viral, for instance, Mark Driscoll talked about how a woman should...
I've often said that the higher drive wife carries a lot of burdens that other permutations of libido do not. It can be very difficult to be a husband married to a woman who doesn't want sex, but at least that's culturally expected. As a woman, we grow up hearing how...