We all want amazing lives filled with joy and passion and wholeness. Who wouldn't want that? But too often that is not what people experience. I've been sitting in my yellow chair trying to write the final post for our "digging yourself out of the pit" series, and...
When we're trying to get out of the pit our sex life is in--sometimes we're the one who needs to grab the ladder. We're near the end of our series on getting our sex life out of the pit that one--or both--of us have dug for ourselves. Often the issues are...
Were you ever told as a teen that if you have sex with someone, you will bond with them? That if you have sex you will feel so bonded that it will be hard to ever bond with anyone else again? And that when we have sex, we release the bonding hormone oxytocin? What...
What does it mean if your wife says you never make love? Every Monday I like to film an "Ask Sheila" video, and today's is a sad one from a husband whose wife doesn't want sex--and who feels that they are drifting apart. He writes:My wife and I married 18 years ago....
Now that you know all about the different birth control methods--how can you figure out which one is right for you? Here at Bare Marriage, I try to pick a big topic to tackle every Wednesday each month, and this month has been our birth control month. We've talked...
Can "natural family planning" actually work as a method of birth control? Or are people who use natural family planning basically guaranteed to be parents pretty soon? I've been dedicating the Wednesdays in October to looking at...
We talk a lot about what to do when your husband struggles with porn here on the site. Today, however, we get to hear from Hugh Huston, author of Jesus is Better than Porn, who is himself a husband who struggled with porn for 30 years. And when he decided enough was...
This month on Wednesdays I'm talking about birth control! And today I want to spend a whole post dedicated towards The Pill, because it's such a common method. When I say "The Pill", though, that's a bit of a misnomer, because so many different hormonal formulas count...
Birth control should be a shared responsibility. I'm worried that too often women feel pressured to do something that hurts their health in order to preserve their husband's comfort. And that's not right. I'm down in New Brunswick (right on the Quebec border, on the...
The image of the older woman who is sexually confident and wants more adventure in bed is quite common in our culture. Think of the "cougar" stereotype, that older woman who is looking for a younger man to satisfy her. Recently, when I was flying back from Kenya, the...
How do you choose what birth control method to use? Every month, I like to take a new topic and address it every Wednesday. And I realized recently that I had not written about birth control since 2010! Yikes! Especially because it's such a common question I get when...
How do you deal with the post-sex blues, or getting depressed right after sex? We're supposed to feel euphoria after we have sex. Our bodies release oxytocin, the bonding hormone. We're flooded with these relaxed and happy feelings. Everything is right with the world!...
What do you do when your husband is not interested in you sexually? Last week on the blog we dealt with some pretty big marriage issues--infidelity, how to talk to your kids when you're having problems, and more. This week I actually want to talk about some practical...
Has your sex life gotten boring? Help is here! We're in our second week of our Sizzling Summer Sex Series, and today I want to help those of you who feel like sex isn't sizzling whatsoever. And that is sad--because sex is meant to be awesome! It's explosive. It should...
How do you adjust to having sex once you're married--especially if you decided to wait until marriage to have sex? I know I didn't make that transition well! And so when a newlywed blogger asked to write this post for me, I thought it would be awesome! Now, if you're...