It's time to talk about orgasms! We spend a lot of time on the Bare Marriage podcast and blog talking about what's gone WRONG in evangelical teaching. But we also want to teach how to make things go right. Four years ago, after we had finished our research for The...
Hi, everyone! This week we're talking about orgasm--because it matters! We spend a lot of time on the blog talking about where teaching has gone wrong and made our marriages and sex lives worse. But we've also created a ton of content, including courses, that teach...
I think it's time to talk more about orgasm! We spend a lot of time at Bare Marriage showing how BAD teaching can lead us to really bad outcomes--no sexual pleasure; distance in marriage; even sexual pain. But we don't just want to show you what can mess you up. We...
What happens when pastors give sex advice, but they aren't trained to do so? This week's podcast we're talking about a big question: is it ever useful to expect pastors to give specific sex advice? What is a part of the pastor's job, and what simply isn't? If you want...
You guys! Guess what happened! Christianity Today actually covered The Great Sex Rescue--and it was phenomenal! A few weeks ago, just after we recorded the podcast about how the authors we critique have been either ignoring us or doubling down and saying awful things,...
I've got an awesome example of how stats can be misused today! And why it's important when we hear someone who isn't trained in statistics using studies to "prove" their point, when the point sounds like a stretch, to actually check their sources. In February, Dallas...
Just a super quick post today on why "equality" sometimes misses the boat when it comes to sexual pleasure. I use Tuesdays either to take a day off from writing the blog, or to share something super quick that's on my mind and I just want to write it out. I'm hoping...
God does not ask us to consent to selfish sex. In fact, one-sided intercourse is not sex. I can summarize The Great Sex Rescue by saying that sex is supposed to be MUTUAL, INTIMATE, and PLEASURABLE FOR BOTH. That's what God intended. Sex is not merely intercourse...
The most damaging belief we found on our survey of 20,000 women was the obligation sex message. Getting married believing that a wife was obligated to give her husband sex when he wanted it resulted in much higher rates of sexual pain, lower orgasm rates, and lower...
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
How do you know when you've done enough foreplay? We're starting a new series on the blog right now, leading up to the release of the Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the TOTALLY REVAMPED AND REWRITTEN Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex on March 15!You can Pre-Order The...
Once again, Focus on the Family is promoting an article that places the blame on you if your spouse cheats. They're advertising an older article on their Facebook page right now where it encourages you to look for "vulnerabilities" in your marriage to see if it's...
There's a myth that sexual confidence and being adventurous in bed are synonyms. I think they're related, but only tangentially, and I think the fact that we equate them is part of the problem. In October and November we're talking about sexual confidence. We've...
Have you ever noticed that when we talk about oral sex in the Christian community, we usually frame it as something he wants and she should give? In that now infamous Edinburgh sermon that went viral, for instance, Mark Driscoll talked about how a woman should...
With thanks to Femallay, our sponsor for the sexual confidence series. I hate hot flashes. Even your hands sweat. The back of your neck gets clammy. You want to strip in public–which is generally not a good idea. You start to forget things. I’m starting to make...