How to Get More Adventurous in Bed

by | Jul 17, 2019 | Uncategorized | 4 comments

How to get more adventurous in bed--advice for married couples who need some ideas for how to spice things up!
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Want to get more adventurous when it comes to sex, but don’t know where to start? 

This month we’re focusing on practical tips for a better sex life. We’ve talked about how to try new positions, how to have sex even when it’s so hot you don’t want to touch each other, and now let’s get into one of our most frequently asked questions: 

How do I get more adventurous in bed?

I want to be able to give you a lot of information and a lot of tips with this one, so here are 10 ways you can spice things up along with other articles you can read for more information and ideas! 

Have fun!

1: Try some sexy talk!

Want to try some talk to get your spouse more “in the mood” and turn the heat up, but don’t know where to start? 

I asked my male and female readers what questions would work for men and women and put it together into two different posts! Try out some of these questions and see how they go! 

2: How to Tell Your Husband What You Want in Bed!

How to Tell Your Husband What You Want in Bed

Finding that sex is becoming a bit mundane, but don’t know how to ask him for what you really want? Here’s some practical advice to help you speak up and make sex better for BOTH of you by not letting shyness or nervousness hold you back in bed! 

3: Practical Ways to Get More Adventurous in Bed!

10 Ways to Get More Adventurous in Bed!

To go together with the previous post on how to tell your husband what you want in bed, here are 10 practical ways you can get more adventurous in the bedroom even if you’re shy or nervous around trying new things with sex. These will help you both learn what makes the other person tick and how to drive them crazy! 

4: Try “His” and “Hers” Nights to Spice Things Up!

How Having “His” and “Hers” Nights can Spice Up Your Sex Life!

If you want to balance getting spicy in the bedroom with feeling like you totally respect and honour each other, “his” and “hers” nights are a great marriage tool!

One suggestion I’ve made repeatedly when I talk about how to get more adventurous in bed, or how to tell your spouse what you want, is to try “his” and “her” nights, where on those nights you get to do what one spouse wants–but on other nights you just do the regular things that you both enjoy together! This is the post that gets into the nitty-gritty of how this works and how it can inject some fun into your sex life!

5: Don’t Think You Need Erotica to Get More Adventurous

How to Spice Things Up Without 50 Shades of Grey

A lot of couples, when they want to get more adventurous, explore erotica or pornography to give them ideas. But this is a really unhealthy and dangerous idea, and there are tons of ways you can try new things and spice things up without using harmful materials. 

Here’s some practical advice for how you can spice things up without having to use erotica! 


6: Try Some Games to Spice Things Up! 

5 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage

Here are some great ideas on how to incorporate some games into your sex life in a safe way that turns up the heat! Check out these ideas and see which ones would work for you!  

7: Try some Spicy Marriage Dares to Rev Up Your Sex Life! 

24 Sexy Dares for Married Couples!

If you’re looking to get more adventurous or to mix things up a bit, this is our #1 recommendation. This comes with 24 dares: 8 for her, 8 for him, and 8 for the two of you together. It focuses on helping you try new things, have some fun, but also feel closer to each other.

Each dare has its instructions and description, and you have the choice to read it ahead of time or in the moment! 

How about trying “Around the World”, “I See All of You”, or “Texas Hold Em”? Or maybe “The Rocket Launcher” or “No More Cleanup in Aisle 5”?

Trying new things can sometimes be intimidating. You may not know how to ask for what you want. You may not even know what you want! But sometimes things get stale, and you know you need SOMETHING.

That’s why we made these dares. The dares make asking for new things far less awkward. And they bring more fun back to your marriage, too! Check them out! 

Now it’s your turn. Keeping it classy in the comments of course, what are some of your best tips for for spouses who want to get more adventurous in bed? 

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How to get more adventurous in bed--advice for married couples who need some ideas for how to spice things up!

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Sheila Wray Gregoire

Author at Bare Marriage

Sheila is determined to help Christians find biblical, healthy, evidence-based help for their marriages. And in doing so, she's turning the evangelical world on its head, challenging many of the toxic teachings, especially in her newest book The Great Sex Rescue. She’s an award-winning author of 8 books and a sought-after speaker. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Sheila works with her husband Keith and daughter Rebecca to create podcasts and courses to help couples find true intimacy. Plus she knits. All the time. ENTJ, straight 8

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  1. Gemma

    I find the easiest way to spice things up is to change foreplay. We tend to get into sex routines where we have a set script of how how sex happens. Mixing up the beginning of the script can be easier than trying a new penetrative position. Start kissing/touching in a different room. Standing or sitting if you usually lie down. Try new oral sex positions too. Those are the easiest things for us anyway.

  2. Matthew

    LOL…the lack of comments on this topic could imply that many are hoping to get ideas and have very few to share 😉

  3. Songs of the Believers

    One suggestion that seems to continually come up in our community is pace – just go at it a bit harder! Sometimes so many hold back on this, when sometimes we just want to “take” our spouse – or be taken!

  4. Melanie

    Working on the whole relationship- taking time to have fun together and play and be friends goes a long way. Turn off the tv and the phones and connect to each other instead. When you are already having a blast together outside the bedroom, it sets you up for more fun in the bedroom.


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