Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
How Evangelical Sex Teachings Obscured the Red Flags in Death of a Pastor’s Wife
The strangest thing about watching Netflix’s Death of a Pastor’s Wife is how familiar it all feels. Our family has been attending an Anglican Church...
PODCAST: If Men Are the Protectors, Why Do They Want Women to Do Risky Things?
When women are vulnerable, abuse can flourish And it's a problem that so much advice to evangelical women today is aimed at making women extremely...
Sexual Double Standards: We Expect So Much More from Women Than From Men–Which leads to Male Entitlement
Evangelicalism has huge double standards of sexual expectations in marriage. One of the things we tried to drive home in The Marriage You Want is...
Why Does Evangelicalism Pit Husbands Against Babies?
One of the most common pieces of marriage advice you’ll hear in evangelical circles is “your husband comes before the kids.” It’s constant, and...
PODCAST: The Problems with The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle
The Emowered Wife is really, really bad. Like horrifically bad. It basically tells women to self-erase and self-censor in order to make husbands...
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PODCAST: Purity Culture Authors Are Rewriting History (Case Study of Dannah Gresh)
Dannah Gresh is Rewriting And the Bride Wore White. But is she apologizing for all the harmful things she wrote before? Is she acknowledging that...
A Letter to SBC Women: It’s Time to Go
This has been a tough but clarifying week for the North American evangelical church. The Southern Baptist Convention, the largest Protestant...
PODCAST: Keith and Sheila Respond to crazy clips (Is it That Jezebel Spirit Again?)
Let's react to pastors, influencers, and more! One of the things that we like to do periodically is play some of the horrid reels that get sent to...
Alisa Childers Owes Evangelical Women an Apology for Dismissing Their Pain
Alisa Childers recently critiqued The Great Sex Rescue on her podcast. Childers calls herself an apologist. She became well-known in Christian...
Can Complementarians Have Great Sex?
Is it necessary to critique complementarianism to help people have a better sex life? One of the critiques I get at Bare Marriage is that I'd be...
PODCAST: Let’s Talk Men of Virtue with Zachary Wagner
What is healthy masculinity? We hear a ton about toxic masculinity, and our guest today has written a book on Non-Toxic Masculinity before too! But...
Al Mohler, Women Podcast Hosts, and the Slippery Slope of Complementarianism
Complementarians often warn about the slippery slope of egalitarianismFor the last few years, the Southern Baptist Convention has been trying to get...
Why Complementarianism Depends on Keeping Women in a Bubble
Complementarianism is threatened when women see there are alternatives. I've got some quick new findings for you today, and then some birthday...
When Trauma from Sexual Dynamics in Marriage Hits You Decades Later
It's moving day for me! We're leaving our house of 19 years and heading to our new place! So I wanted to share something different today. So many...
Do Women Care about Men’s Appearance?
Are women visually oriented? What we usually hear in the church is that God made men to be visual (the Every Man's Battle authors say that God made...
PODCAST: Who Bears the Mental Load for Sex?
Women have a harder time enjoying sex--so why is the mental load left to her? Today on the podcast we play a bunch of clips of different...
How Eric and Leslie Ludy Equated the Rape of a 12-Year-Old with “Losing Her Virginity”
Eric and Leslie Ludy completely distort the trauma of sexual assault This husband and wife team (who got together first when he was 21 and she was...
What If There’s More Jesus in Decluttering Shows Than in Some Churches?
Sometimes Jesus shows up in weird places--like cleaning shows. I want to do something different today and let you in a bit on my personal faith...
PODCAST: How to Vet a Church’s Website to See if They’re Healthy
Can you tell from a church's website if they're healthy? Not necessarily. But you sure can weed out a lot of unhealthy ones! So if you're trying to...
A Step-By-Step Guide to Vetting a Church’s Website to See if It’s Healthy
Can you tell if a church is healthy using its website? Absolutely! Or at least you can make a pretty good start and eliminate a lot of obviously...
What I’ve Noticed About Scripture in Evangelical vs. Anglican Churches
I've been thinking about the lectionary this Easter holiday. It's still a holiday here in Canada, and I'll be taking most of the day to relax and...
PODCAST: Why Is Every Man’s Battle So Creepy? Plus Benevolent vs. Hostile Sexism
Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes....
Why Can’t the Every Man’s Battle Authors Acknowledge Sexual Assault Victims? 2 Horrifying Examples
Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker ignore abuse victims in Every Man's Battle. They never talk about the reality of sexual abuse, or acknowledge that...
NEW RESEARCH: Modesty Messages Groom Boys to Become Predators
Teaching modesty messages makes church more dangerous for teen girls. That's what our newest paper, out in the Journal for the Scientific Study of...
PODCAST: New Research on Modesty Messages, Sexual Harassment in Church, Plus We Answer Your Questions!
We've got a new research paper on modesty messaging coming out! We've been working behind the scenes on a number of different peer reviewed papers,...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!