Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
A Call for Mainline Christians to Reach Out to Evangelicals
Mainline Christians are salt of the earth people. Ever noticed that? They often fill all the volunteer slots at soup kitchens. They do the Christmas...
How Evangelical Church Services Can Work Against Justice and Support the Status Quo
Is the evangelical church missing the boat when it comes to justice for women? Not just missing the boat theologically by supporting doctrines that...
PODCAST: What Is the Dignity Line? Plus We Analyze a Pastor’s SErmon on Sex
Today I'm going to intoduce you to Dawn, The Minimal Mom! And there's a story behind it. Dawn has a huge platform where she's shared info, tips, and...
The Trends that Shaped Gen X Pastors and Gen X Church Women
I got up at 6 in the morning to watch Lady Diana Spencer marry Prince Charles Sixteen years later, I watched her funeral three times in succession...
PODCAST: Live, Laugh, Love with Kristen Kobes Du Mez
At long last, Live, Laugh, Love is here! Kristin Du Mez made history when she wrote Jesus and John Wayne, the history of evangelicalism and how it...
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Why Does Evangelicalism Pit Husbands Against Babies?
One of the most common pieces of marriage advice you’ll hear in evangelical circles is “your husband comes before the kids.” It’s constant, and...
PODCAST: The Problems with The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle
The Emowered Wife is really, really bad. Like horrifically bad. It basically tells women to self-erase and self-censor in order to make husbands...
The Problems with The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle: A Review with Download
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is...
What if the Aim of Complementarianism is the Lack of Accountability for Men?
Is the aim of complementarianism to give men leadership over women? Most complementarians would eventually say yes, even if reluctantly. They would...
PODCAST: If Men Are Leaders, Why Do They Need Women to Fix Them?
Ever noticed how much evangelical marriage advice treats men like little boys? And the solution that helps men mature and grow up is women? But...
The Story of Two Pastors Defending Marital Rape
I'm often surprised what sexist pastors will say in public comments on social media. This week I've been posting quite a bit on Facebook about the...
How The Navigators Normalized Marital Rape
Let's look at how specific discipleship materials actually enable marital rape. But first, a bit of background. Last week on my Substack I re-ran a...
PODCAST: What Would Accountability for Purity Culture Authors Look Like?
Will we ever hear an apology from Dannah Gresh and others? We're wrapping up our 3-episode arc on the Bare Marriage podcast this week, looking at...
Why the Bare Marriage Research Studies Are So Ground-Breaking (And You Can Trust Them!)
There's been a big uptick lately of men especially on social media accusing us of having biased research in our study of 20,000 women. I don't...
Evangelical Advice Saying Expectations in Marriage are Sinful Is Crazy-Making
A funny thing happened last week for Mother’s Day. The Gospel Coalition, a rather mainstream evangelical organization founded by the late Tim Keller...
PODCAST: Why the Billy Graham Rule Hurts Men Too
The Billy Graham Rule sexualizes everyone--and isn't biblical. There's nothing in the Bible that says that we can't have healthy relationships with...
Why Understanding Obligation Sex Is Bad Doesn’t Fix Things On Its Own
Recovery from obligation sex begins with understanding autonomy and consent. It begins with understanding it was never God's will for one person to...
PODCAST: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talk Lust and Sex!
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and...
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to...
Casual Sex the Christian Way
In Christian marriage advice, sex is supposed to be deeply intimate--until it's not. Here's what happens: Before marriage, Christians are told that...
PODCAST: The Problems with For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn
For Men Only presents such a sad view of marriage! Written by Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff, it's a companion book for her best-seller For...
Women Have Agency: You Don’t Have to Obey Churches or Husbands Who Want to Control You
Yesterday I had a message from a woman being summoned in to defend herself to a toxic elders' board. She had been going to a very hierarchical,...
Anger vs. Pity: What Is the Appropriate Emotion to Those Espousing Male Hierarchy?
What if pity is actually a good strategy? And what if pity reveals a bit of God's heart too? Let me tell you about something that blew my mind...
PODCAST: I Belong to Me with Tia Levings
How do yo find yourself again after emerging from fundamentalism? Many of us have had religious trauma from our church upbringing, or a...
When Trauma from Sexual Dynamics in Marriage Hits You Decades Later
It's moving day for me! We're leaving our house of 19 years and heading to our new place! So I wanted to share something different today. So many...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!