Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
The Story of Two Pastors Defending Marital Rape
I'm often surprised what sexist pastors will say in public comments on social media. This week I've been posting quite a bit on Facebook about the...
How The Navigators Normalized Marital Rape
Let's look at how specific discipleship materials actually enable marital rape. But first, a bit of background. Last week on my Substack I re-ran a...
PODCAST: What Would Accountability for Purity Culture Authors Look Like?
Will we ever hear an apology from Dannah Gresh and others? We're wrapping up our 3-episode arc on the Bare Marriage podcast this week, looking at...
How Do You Measure the “Good Fruit” of Marriage Teaching?
Evangelical marriage teachers are changing the meaning of “good fruit” when it comes to marriage teaching—largely because of us. We’ve successfully...
PODCAST: Good Fruit–Are We Measuring It Right When it Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?
How do you actually measure the "good fruit" of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we've been criticized for saying that it's good fruit...
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PODCAST: When Your Parenting Needs a Fresh Start feat. Wendy Snyder
Many of us are starting from scratch with parenting. We were raised in James Dobson, authoritarian type households, and we know we don't want that...
Why the Bare Marriage Research Studies Are So Ground-Breaking (And You Can Trust Them!)
There's been a big uptick lately of men especially on social media accusing us of having biased research in our study of 20,000 women. I don't...
Evangelical Advice Saying Expectations in Marriage are Sinful Is Crazy-Making
A funny thing happened last week for Mother’s Day. The Gospel Coalition, a rather mainstream evangelical organization founded by the late Tim Keller...
PODCAST: Why the Billy Graham Rule Hurts Men Too
The Billy Graham Rule sexualizes everyone--and isn't biblical. There's nothing in the Bible that says that we can't have healthy relationships with...
Why Understanding Obligation Sex Is Bad Doesn’t Fix Things On Its Own
Recovery from obligation sex begins with understanding autonomy and consent. It begins with understanding it was never God's will for one person to...
PODCAST: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talk Lust and Sex!
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and...
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to...
Casual Sex the Christian Way
In Christian marriage advice, sex is supposed to be deeply intimate--until it's not. Here's what happens: Before marriage, Christians are told that...
PODCAST: Why Is Every Man’s Battle So Creepy? Plus Benevolent vs. Hostile Sexism
Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes....
Why Can’t the Every Man’s Battle Authors Acknowledge Sexual Assault Victims? 2 Horrifying Examples
Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker ignore abuse victims in Every Man's Battle. They never talk about the reality of sexual abuse, or acknowledge that...
NEW RESEARCH: Modesty Messages Groom Boys to Become Predators
Teaching modesty messages makes church more dangerous for teen girls. That's what our newest paper, out in the Journal for the Scientific Study of...
PODCAST: New Research on Modesty Messages, Sexual Harassment in Church, Plus We Answer Your Questions!
We've got a new research paper on modesty messaging coming out! We've been working behind the scenes on a number of different peer reviewed papers,...
Let’s Dissect the Roots of the Duggars’ Pedophilia
Another Duggar son has been charged with sexually abusing a child. This time it’s Joseph Duggar, the seventh born and third son. (I wrote this piece...
PODCAST: Adult ADHD, Marriage, and Gender Roles!
Let’s talk ADHD and marriage! What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a...
Why Complementarianism Isn’t Actually About Men Really Leading
I've seen so many social media complementarian messages telling women to take the initiative to fix things. One particular one accused women of...
Who Is the Real Victim When Men Lust? Every Man’s Battle Says It’s Men!
Why is lust a sin? That may seem like a silly question, because it's obvious, right? It's LUST. And lust is bad. But seriously--what, specifically,...
PODCAST: Did Purity Culture Cause Developmental Trauma?
Why do evangelical women see sex as a chore? We're doing a fun podcast today where I'm combining a whole bunch of different things that I've been...
Defeating Complementarianism Is Not Just an Intellectual Exercise
Preston Sprinkle's new book comes out in favour of egalitarianism! I'm honestly so relieved. I heard about From Genesis to Junia a few months ago,...
Why Complementarian Marriages Lose Out on Intimacy
With thanks to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post.My husband Keith is in the middle of a 4-part series about why...
PODCAST: You’re Allowed to Want Stuff! Desire, Libido and More with Jay Stringer
What if our desires make us fully human? And what if they're what give us our individuality? Jay Stringer joins us on the podcast today to talk...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!