Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
PODCAST: Professor Neil Shows Us How to Reach Young Men Steeped in Misogyny
I love Professor Neil's videos. Professor Neil is a professor of English literature at Cambrian College in Sudbury, Ontario, but he's best known for...
Have We Taught Teen Girls to Ignore Red Flags When Dating?
What happens when we tell girls that “boys will want to push your sexual boundaries”? That's one of the toxic teachings that we measured in both our...
3 Ways to Help Your Friends Not Fall Into Toxic Evangelical Teachings
The Doug Wilson blowup made me realize: We need to speak to our friends about fear. Did you see the CNN interview with Wilson and members of his...
PODCAST: What Does Authoritarianism and Complementarianism Have in Common? (with a Quiz!)
What if complementarianism is authoritarianism in disguise? One of the questions that haunts us here at Bare Marriage, that we're always trying to...
When You Realize Grief Has a Mind of its Own
I startled awake this morning, mid-dream, at 4 a.m., like I do most August 6ths. Because 29 years ago my water broke at 4 a.m. My son would have...
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4 Reasons Church May Not Be a Safe Place for Women
These stories are adapted from the book Safe Church: How To Guard Against Sexism & Abuse in Christian Communities by Dr. Andrew Bauman. Art is...
Why Do Evangelical Women Not Want to Marry Evangelical Men?
Are evangelical women hesitant to marry evangelical men? Rebecca and I talked about this on a podcast recently, but I’ve had so many emails since...
PODCAST: YOu Don’t Have to Iron Your Cheating Husband’s Clothes–Plus Ask Us Anything!
It's time to answer some questions--and draw some boundaries! We thought we'd do a rapid fire Q&A in today's podcast, and take some questions...
They Told Me I Was Equal, But Trained Me to Be a Subordinate
What impact does our new book The Marriage You Want have on people? I was recently tagged in a post on Substack by Joy LaPrade, a woman I've met on...
Saving Face: Aimee Byrd Writes to Heal Those Left Bruised by a Defaced Church
With thanks to Zondervan and Saving Face for sponsoring this post When I was seven years old I used to go on walks with Jesus. I was the only child...
PODCAST: The Problems with The Love Dare, and Why It Just Papers Over REal Problems
The Love Dare by the Kendrick Brothers is a problematic book. As we talked about yesterday, it encourages people to paper over real problems, ignore...
The Love Dare by the Kendrick Brothers: A Review of the Problems (with Download)
Let's take a look at The Love Dare by the Kendrick brothers Do you remember the movie Fireproof? It had a book that went along with it--The Love...
My Somewhat Scattered Easter Thoughts At the Margins
Theology doesn't save us. Doctrine doesn't save us. Resurrection saves us. (And transformation is the point!) I've been thinking about that ever...
Follow the Evidence Where It Leads…To The Marriage You Want
A big value at Bare Marriage is that we're evidence-based. I open my podcast every week with "we like to talk about "healthy, evidence-based,...
Are the WRONG People Getting the RIGHT Marriage Advice?
I’ve spent years trying to untangle the Christian marriage advice puzzle. When we started researching the best-selling marriage books when we were...
PODCAST: Is Caling Acts of Service a Love Language Missing Something HUGE? New Bonus Stats!
Is it a "love language" to do basic chores? When we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, one of the things that really bothered us was that evangelical...
Is the “Acts of Service” Love Language Really a Cry for Help?
Is "Acts of Service" a real love language? Many of you may be familiar with the runaway best-seller by Gary Chapman The Five Love Languages, which...
Why Are Men Scared to Submit? Super Quick Rundown on Ephesians 5
Ephesians 5 calls husbands to submit too. But whenever we talk about men submitting, so many men take offense to that! I wrote up this super quick...
PODCAST: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells us About Marriage (And Mental Load!)
What if there's a Bigger problem in marriage than sex or money? We always hear that the two biggest issues in marriage are sex and money, right?...
Should Marriage Make You Holy or Happy?
Is marriage primarily about teaching you to be selfless and to grow like Jesus through suffering? I hope you would all say a resounding, “no!” We...
How Do We Judge a Tree by Its Fruit with Marriage Advice?
How exactly do we judge something by its fruit? One of the things we’re adamant about here at Bare Marriage is the concept of “evidence-based” and...
PODCAST: Should You Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom? And why Date Nights Aren’t Always the Answer
Is being a good wife in conflict with being a good mom? And what does it look like to prioritize your marriage? Episode 270 of Bare Marriage!
Expectations in Marriage: 4 Things You Should Expect from Your Spouse
Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? On Monday on the blog (and last Friday on Substack--are you following me there yet?) I was talking...
He’d Die for You. But Will He Do the Dishes?
"The husband has to be prepared to die for his wife." One of the most bizarre arguments defending men being in authority over women is the idea that...
PODCAST: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs–and Why Compromise Often Backfires
If you're in conflict, you just compromise, right? Well, not necessarily! Here's the thing: compromise only works if you're starting from an even...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!