Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
What Happens to the Vagina After Menopause?
A healthy vagina is lubricated, supple, and elastic. It's supposed to be able to stretch (for obvious reasons, like both penetrative sex and...
Does Sex Hurt the First Time?
Is sex really painful the first time? That’s one of the most common questions I get asked from engaged women waiting for the wedding night. How much...
PODCAST: How Your Story Affects Your Choices with Natalie Hoffman
Understanding our stories helps us understand our choices--and make different ones in the future. The last book I read in 2023 was an advanced copy...
3 Ways Your Spouse Should Pass the Roommate Test
We love to say that spouses aren’t just roommates And they’re definitely not! Roommates share a living space, and little else. Spouses are supposed...
What If Sex Is Like Going out to Dinner?
This week The Good Guy’s Guide and Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex Turn 2! Two years ago, these two books launched. I wrote the original Good Girl’s...
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Complementarian Sexual “Asymmetry”: Can Sex Be Mutually Pleasurable?
Denny Burk didn't like The Great Sex Rescue because we thought sex could be "egalitarian." Burk is the head of the Council of Biblical Manhood and...
How Did We Think Calling 8-Year-Olds’ Bellies “Intoxicating” Was Okay?
Why did the evangelical church not recognize pedophilic language? Last week on the Bare Marriage podcast we told you about Dannah Gresh's Secret...
Is It True That All Guys Can’t Help But Imagine You Naked?
Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the...
PODCAST: How Did Modesty Messages Affect Us Long-Term?
How does hearing modesty messages as a teen affect you as an adult? We're working through another big chapter in our new book She Deserves Better...
Did David Rape Bathsheba? Plus Why the Answer Matters
For the last week, social media has been debating whether David raped Bathsheba. It erupted anew when Owen Strachan, a staunch patriarchalist,...
The Doors are Open and It’s Time for a Party!
I've been talking about this day for so long, and it's finally here! The Launch Team for She Deserves Better launches--for lack of a better...
Have Babies, Not Orgasms? Our Critics Say We’re Against Procreation
Last week, Denny Burk accused us of being for women's pleasure rather than procreation. Burk is the head of the Council for Biblical Manhood and...
PODCAST: Do Girls Really Talk Too Much? Another claim That Was Made Up!
Ever heard that stat that women speak 25,000 words a day and men only 10,000? Or maybe you heard 15,000 and 8,000. Or 50,000 and 25,000. There are...
The Podcast With the Woman Who Was Crying in the Shower Before Sex
Two weeks ago on the podcast we told you about a women who wrote in to Emerson Eggerichs of Love & Respect, saying she was crying in the shower...
71: How Much Foreplay is Enough?
How do you know when you've done enough foreplay? We're starting a new series on the blog right now, leading up to the release of the Good Guy's...
5 Ways Hierarchy in Marriage Hurts Men, Too
What if setting up marriage as a hierarchy, where men make the decisions, isn't good for men either? We know that it can lead to problems for women...
Keith’s Views on Deconstructing the Faith–and Reconstructing Something Healthy
Sheila here! My husband Keith's manifesto on Wednesday about how the evangelical church has treated women went quite big, and he has one more thing...
What’s Wrong with Wanting to Submit to My Husband?
Most of us agree that you shouldn't have to submit to an abusive husband. But what if you're married to a good husband? I get lots of emails from...
PODCAST: It’s Time to Jump Out of the Boiling Water
At what point do we realize that something is terribly off with the way the evangelical church sees women? Today, on the Start Your Engines men's...
Keith’s Manifesto: Guys, It’s Time to Jump Out of the Boiling Water
Our series this month is "putting Christ back in Christian marriage advice." When I told Keith that, he said that there's something he's been...
Meditations on The God Who Sees Me
I've been thinking lately about how much women are often made invisible or ignored. Specifically, I've been reading through Every Young Man's Battle...
Movie Reviews for Redeeming Love: What You Need to Know
Everyday for the last month I've received multiple social media messages asking me to write a review of the Redeeming Love movie. Redeeming Love was...
What Does Treating Women with Respect Look Like?
Can we stop objectifying women and treat us like whole people, made in the image of God? We've been talking about putting the "Christ" back in...
The Podcast Where Emerson Eggerichs Ignores Marital Rape
I'm all fired up about the fact that people still consider Emerson Eggerichs an authority on marriage and sex. As most of you know, every year in...
Why Does Emerson Eggerichs Consider a Woman Crying in the Shower Before Sex “A Goldmine”?
It's Time to Revisit Love & Respect! It's three years ago this week that we launched our first series looking at the problems with the book Love...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!












Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!