Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to...
Casual Sex the Christian Way
In Christian marriage advice, sex is supposed to be deeply intimate--until it's not. Here's what happens: Before marriage, Christians are told that...
PODCAST: The Problems with For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn
For Men Only presents such a sad view of marriage! Written by Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff, it's a companion book for her best-seller For...
Women Have Agency: You Don’t Have to Obey Churches or Husbands Who Want to Control You
Yesterday I had a message from a woman being summoned in to defend herself to a toxic elders' board. She had been going to a very hierarchical,...
Anger vs. Pity: What Is the Appropriate Emotion to Those Espousing Male Hierarchy?
What if pity is actually a good strategy? And what if pity reveals a bit of God's heart too? Let me tell you about something that blew my mind...
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Can Complementarians Please Stop Using the “You’re Equal to Your Boss” Analogy?
Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post.My husband Keith and I talk a lot behind the scenes about the theology...
PODCAST: Famished–How Purity culture Taught Girls to Shrink with Anna Rollins
What if purity culture taught you to shrink? And you did--literally? I read Anna Rollins' book Famished lately, and I was so enthralled by her...
The Misleading TActics used to Keep Women Down in Evangelicalism
So much Christian teaching is dedicated to keeping men in power over women. I don't think that's of Christ. I know it bears bad fruit (we've...
Does Waiting for Marriage for Sex Increase the Chance for Painful Sex?
Does waiting for marriage for sex increase sexual pain disorders? In short, yes. We found this in our survey of 20,000 women for our book The Great...
PODCAST: What We Uncovered Making the Love & Respect Docuseries
The Love & Respect Docuseries has been a long time in the making! While Rebecca and Joanna have been working nonstop for the last few months,...
Love & Respect Part 3: When Hurt People Hurt People
Pastors should not be writing books until they've dealt with their trauma. And even then, they shouldn't write the book based on how they dealt with...
Why You Can’t Say: “This Advice Isn’t Meant for Those in Abusive Marriages”
Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post Often when we point out advice is harmful people respond with "but it's...
PODCAST: Bad Stats, Editing the Bible, and Recycling 1970s Ideas: A Love & Respect Deep Dive Part 2
What if Love & Respect is Based on a Faulty Foundation? Love & Respect is based on shoddy data; misrepresented research; edited Bible...
How Can We Talk about Men’s Sexual Desire in a Healthy Way?
One of the most frequent questions I get from men is this one: How can I get my wife to understand my sexual needs? He feels like he’s in a...
Complementarianism’s “Equal but Different Roles” Hypocrisy
With thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! Complementarianism has a big problem. For those of you who...
PODCAST: The Problems with Complementarianism in a Nutshell
Complementarians often use pretty words to obscure what they believe. They say things like "men are meant to be the protectors!", or "men bear the...
A New Strategic Video Channel to Start Conversations!
How do we get others to see the truth about healthy sex & marriage teaching? It's so hard to break through all the slop that's on social media...
7 Reasons The Bible Says You Can Divorce for Abuse
Thank you to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post God isn’t glorified when women stay in marriages where they’re...
PODCAST: Francine Rivers’ And the Shofar blew Part 2
Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this podcast It's the second part of our conversation about Francine Rivers' And the...
How Wholly Unqualified People Shaped Evangelical Marriage And Sex Advice–and Still Do!
I've got two case studies of wholly unqualified people giving advice for you today! I’d like to tell you 2 different stories about 2 different...
Did Women Ruin the Church Too? Dorothy Greco, The New York Times, and Jesus
Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! Last week, The New York Times had a ridiculous headline asking if women...
PODCAST: Francine Rivers’ And the Shofar Blew–Let’s Look at Christian Fiction (Part 1)
Let's look at fiction--something we've never done before! Here at Bare Marriage we've looked extensively at the nonfiction, self-help books about...
Marriage CounselLing vs. Marriage Coaching: How Can You Tell Who is Qualified?
With thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! When you need help with your marriage, where do you go? We've...
Let’s Talk about the Weight of Being a Woman
Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post Ever been told, “sexism is a thing of the past?” Or maybe you’ve heard...
PODCAST: For the Love of Women feat. Dorothy Greco
Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this podcast! Have you ever heard people say, "sexism is a thing of the past"? Or...
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Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!