Safety is the precursor to everything that helps us thrive. Often as the year changes I spend some time between Christmas and New Year's in contemplation and listening, trying to discern what's important to concentrate on in the year ahead. You've all likely seen the...
We're coming full circle for the last podcast of 2025! We started this "season" (I never know how to count the seasons really!) since we came back from summer break talking about right wing authoritarianism, and how it overlaps almost completely with religious...
The Christmas story brings peace to me when people refuse to hear the truth. It's my last post of 2025, and I've been a little quieter lately, having some time to think and process. And as I've shared at Christmas over the last few years, one of the things that has...
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a hierarchy and that men should get the final decisions (complementarians) do best. This is the podcast (and the op ed) that...
I love Jill Duggar's authenticity in her new memoir Counting the Cost. I love Jill Duggar's (or Jill Dillard's!) growth that she shows in Counting the Cost. I love how Jill models getting help when you need it. I love how she obviously struggled to present a balanced...
Should we endure suffering because it makes us holy? We have a distorted view of suffering in the church today, and it keeps so many women feeling guilty for wanting to make their lives better. Why don't you just put up with what you've got, because look what Jesus...
Does the Billy Graham Rule protect against sexual abuse? On Monday on the blog we were talking about the Billy Graham rule, and how it can harm women. An interesting discussion started on Facebook about that post, and I want to follow up on one of the themes in that...
What if our advice actually triggers the behaviour we want to prevent? One of my favourite places on the internet is our private Patreon Facebook group, where the people who support us financially hang out. For just $5 a month people can join our Patreon group, and in...
How do you have a Christian marriage? And is a healthy Christian marriage different from a healthy marriage of two non-Christians? I had this comment after our podcast last week looking at the quest for a biblical marriage:You guys do a wonderful job showing what...
Ever feel like the fog of toxic teaching is lifting? One of the more encouraging things that’s happened to me online lately is my readers’ responses when I posted just one quote from the August 1 Desiring God article, “Your Husband Will Be Perfect; How To Love A...
It’s okay to tell yourself the truth about your marriage. This year, I want to focus on what healthy marriages look like. And one of the big things about healthy marriages is that they tell the truth. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. He lives in truth and he...
What does it look like to have a “biblical” marriage? We toss that phrase around a lot–”biblical marriage.” It’s become a really loaded term. But often it’s assumed that a “biblical marriage” is just obvious. Everyone knows what it is. But do they? I’m back from an...
Do you feel like God is constantly disappointed in you? I’m enjoying some downtime this summer, and so I’ve been wanting to share with you some thoughts from some amazing women, highlighting them and giving them some much deserved exposure (so you can follow them...
Have you been grappling with the docuseries Shiny, Happy People? This summer, as I’m taking some down time for a month, I wanted to use the opportunity to introduce you to some amazing women that I “met” on Twitter, and whose writing inspires me and makes me think....
Before we get going with the regular post, this week Connor called me up with a notification he got from our podcast host! We Hit 2,500,000 Downloads! Thank you so much for your constant support! This is thrilling. "Listens" tend to be higher than downloads, and that...