Shouldn't authors care if their teaching harms women? I shared a story on Facebook yesterday, and I wanted to expand on it a bit today here, since it resonated so much there. The last few weeks my mind has been replaying a convo I had a few years ago with one of the...
What does submission in marriage mean? The verses in Scripture addressing wives and talking about submission are some of the most weaponized in the Bible. They've been used to tell women that it's wrong to correct your husband (as Emerson Eggerichs does in Love &...
Who should we ultimately follow? I'm wrapping up my submission series soon, and today's post gets to the heart of the matter: too often we tell women that once they're married, their husband stands in the place of Jesus in their lives. On Monday we talked about how...
Can we talk about how our messages about a woman's role can actually undermine her safety? Just a quick catch-up for today's post! I want to share a few things I've seen on social media and then throw this open for discussion. I'm taking a bit of a downtime this week...
I've got an awesome example of how stats can be misused today! And why it's important when we hear someone who isn't trained in statistics using studies to "prove" their point, when the point sounds like a stretch, to actually check their sources. In February, Dallas...
What if both purity culture and the hookup culture are teaching people to treat sex with dissociation and disconnection?Sheila here! Today I'm proud to turn the blog over to Sam Jolman, a licensed counselor in Colorado who is passionate about promoting a healthy idea...
Like you, I'm heartbroken by the Josh Duggar case, and by the continued support for him from his wife. I noticed something that I shared on social media yesterday, and I thought it was worth a super quick post because I'm curious what my commenters think (and there...
Yesterday on the podcast we looked at the metaanalysis about spanking, and talked about gentle parenting. That metaanalysis of 160,000 children found that spanking was either neutral or negative, but not positive. Like if you parent well in other areas, you can blunt...
On Fridays I like to take a look at what's been happening on social media this week, because often most of the writing/thoughts end up on Facebook or Instagram, and if you mostly read the blog you may miss them. So let's go: Let's talk Kissing Before Marriage! I...
How is it that we defeat sin? According to the Bible, the Holy Spirit transforms us into the likeness of Christ (Romans 8:29) and sanctifies us once we make Jesus Lord of our life. We live by the Spirit (Romans 8) and we aren't slaves to sin anymore. We take every...
Jesus did not come to redeem men, so that men could then in turn redeem women. Jesus is not more relatable to men than to women, and men are not more in the image of God than women. And yet this week there were all too many examples that tried to make Christianity...
So many women--and many men as well--honestly feel like the church is hurting them. I do not believe that it is Jesus that is hurting them, but the things that the church teaches, especially around sex and marriage, do cause harm. Our surveys have shown that...
This week, as we've celebrated one year of The Great Sex Rescue, I've received some amazing messages! The first one in my inbox this morning was this one:I shared your book with the marriage ministry leaders in our church. They read it, met with their volunteer team,...
I truly believe that most guys are good guys. I often get accused of hating men, but that's actually not the case. What I hate are the common teachings in the evangelical church that hurt sex and marriage for women. Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of when The...
Most of us agree that you shouldn't have to submit to an abusive husband. But what if you're married to a good husband? I get lots of emails from women who believe in hierarchy in marriage, where the woman submits her will to her husband and follows his decisions....