Toxic marriage advice hurts those in abusive marriages. But it also hurts those in so-called good marriages–because bad advice is just plain bad advice. Here at Bare Marriage we often critique marriage advice that’s given in evangelical circles, showing how that...
Don't let people use your house for a birthday party without telling your spouse. That's a pretty good rule for life! And right now, over on Threads, thousands upon thousands of people worldwide have been invested in Birthday Party Lady's story of how she held her...
Who should we ultimately follow? I'm wrapping up my submission series soon, and today's post gets to the heart of the matter: too often we tell women that once they're married, their husband stands in the place of Jesus in their lives. On Monday we talked about how...
What if the evangelical church is diagnosing the problems with marriage WRONG--and so offering the wrong solutions? That's what we've been looking at on the blog all month, and there's lots more to come! Today on the podcast I walk Keith through the highlights of all...
What if too much marriage advice puts the cart before the horse, demanding reconciliation before trust has been rebuilt? We've been looking this month at how so often evangelical marriage advice puts the emphasis in the wrong place, and thus misdiagnoses the problem...
Who is the person who is most likely to read a marriage book and try to get help with their marriage? Someone whose marriage is a source of strain. If you're in a great marriage, you don't need to read a marriage book. You might read one if you're part of a small...
What if the reason that our evangelical marriage advice often doesn't work is because we're aiming for the wrong thing? And because we're aiming for the wrong thing--we've got the wrong solutions? Welcome to our Marriage Misdiagnosis series! This month we're going to...
What if our marriage advice doesn't work because we're diagnosing marriage problems wrong? This month we're starting a new series called Marriage Misdiagnosis, looking at how often our marriage advice doesn't work because we've got the wrong aims, and thus our advice...
What do you do when your husband is in the ministry and you catch him using porn? I wrote about this years ago, and wasn't planning on writing about it again, but last night I had this overwhelming urge to post this on Facebook:If you are married to someone in...
Did you know that 45,000 receive an email from me every Friday with a round-up of things from the blog and social media that week? To make sure you don't miss anything? And that email is usually written by Rebecca, with an extra insight or thought into where the...
So the wet towels anecdote from Love & Respect has gone big on social media this week. And I wanted to share it with you! As some of you may remember, I've been appalled at what Emerson Eggerichs said in his book Love & Respect (again, the most used marriage...
Unconditional respect isn't a thing. And yet we're often told that men need unconditional respect, just like women need unconditional love. It's summertime, so I'm taking a month off of recording new podcasts, and instead I'm going to highlight some of my favourites...
Lots of people believe a lot of dumb things about marriage! I'm in the middle of moving our site to our new Bare Marriage domain (we should be up and running by the end of the month!), and we're only taking posts from 2018 and forward with us, leaving over 1000 posts...
Do marriages need someone to be in charge? And what does it mean if you assume that they do? Last week Alistair Begg, a big speaker and theologian, posted this on social media:I could say so much about what's theologically wrong with this statement, but I'd encourage...
The most damaging belief we found on our survey of 20,000 women was the obligation sex message. Getting married believing that a wife was obligated to give her husband sex when he wanted it resulted in much higher rates of sexual pain, lower orgasm rates, and lower...