What do we mean by “a good marriage”? When we say, “I want a good marriage”, what, exactly, are we talking about? A marriage that lasts 50 years? A marriage that doesn’t divorce? A marriage that produces great kids? A marriage that follows God’s “created order” of a...
Deconstruction is a key term in evangelicalism that nobody knew 10 years ago. It’s a growing movement, and it’s largely misunderstood. I’m dedicating four podcasts to deconstruction, starting tomorrow. We'll begin with Sarah McCammon talking about her book...
Why does our doctrine of forgiveness and healing often cause so much pain? We’re told the problem is our hearts, that we’re just bitter. But what if it’s not that? What if our teaching on forgiveness has gotten things all wrong? This week, on the podcast, I introduced...
Is there really such a thing as “blue balls”? This month I want to start a new series on the blog called “Fact Checked it For You”, where we look up some of the most common outrageous claims made about sex, and see if they actually stand up to scrutiny. We’ll be...
What if men and women experience sex differently? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new studies on the podcast last...
What if the current Christian sexual ethic isn’t working? One of the big things to come out of our work evaluating the effects of purity culture is that our sexual ethic, the things that we taught teens about sex, is falling short. The way we’re teaching about sex is...
Obligation Sex is the idea that a wife is obligated to have sex when her husband wants to. It’s that simple. It was one of the beliefs that we studied in our survey of 20,000 women for our book The Great Sex Rescue, and we found that when women believed this message...
Sheila here! Keith’s had something gnawing at him for quite a few months, and asked if he could write the series for June where he can build his case. He’s recently read the Danvers Statement, the statement that solidifies the complementarian view of marriage based on...
Do you remember your pre-teen years when you used to dream of kissing your crush? In those days you likely couldn't imagine much beyond kissing, but kissing was a BIG DEAL. All the romance movies ended when the couple had their first kiss. The culmination of teenage...
How do you dig out of a pit you’ve dug for your sex life in marriage? A 4 point plan to rebuild sex, starting with reframing sex & making everyone feel safe.
What if sex doesn't start in the kitchen--but her libido can die there? Rebecca here on the blog today, and I want to tell you about a fascinating new study coming out of Australia. This is the first post in our research deep-dive series on the blog that will be...
What if our marriage advice doesn't work because we're diagnosing marriage problems wrong? This month we're starting a new series called Marriage Misdiagnosis, looking at how often our marriage advice doesn't work because we've got the wrong aims, and thus our advice...
Have you ever heard the name Josephine Butler? If you were alive in London in 1880 you likely would have. In her time, she was as well-known as Florence Nightingale, but history has largely forgotten her. This month on the podcast, we're bringing back women that have...
What if aging parents need help, but only one child lives near them? This week I’ve been rerunning a series I did a few years ago about caring for aging parents. I originally started the conversation by accident, with a little bit of a rant on 3 things parents should...
If you need your adult children to eventually care for you, then that should factor into an equation NOW. I've been thinking about something for a while now that I'd like to just say. It's going to be a bit of a rant, and I may not sound very sympathetic. But I think...