Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
PODCAST: When Evangelical Marriage Advice Mimics Coercive Control
What if evangelical marriage advice actually mimics coercive control? A few months ago I was emailed by Bethany Jantzi when I started talking about...
How Facebook Gave Me a Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
You know when something happens and your heart stops and you start shaking? I had that experience yesterday when someone was able to hack into part...
Why Youth Pastors Shouldn’t “Date” Youth Group Members
Does it really matter if a YOUTH PASTOR dates & marries a GIRL in his youth group? After all, an age difference of 23 and 17 isn't that big a...
How Reading The Excellent Wife Affected Me Personally
The Excellent Wife is a horribly depressing book to read. It was profoundly heavy and sad. When I started writing these onesheets, they didn’t...
PODCAST: The Problems with The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
There are few books as harmful to women as The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace sells like hotcakes in biblical...
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You Don’t Have to Consent to One-Sided Sex
More sex does not fix a marriage. In our study of 20,000 women for The Great Sex Rescue, we found that more sex made good marriages great. Good sex,...
The Bizarre Pushback to My Anti-Obligation Sex Message
Should women get to have a say in when they have sex? I would think that the answer to this is pretty obvious. I don't have time for a long post...
The All About Obligation Sex Podcast
It's time to debunk obligation sex once and for all. The most common question I get on social media is how to respond to obligation sex...
Why Might a Woman Start to Find Sex in Marriage Disgusting?
Has sex ever become super disgusting to you? I sure hope not, but as we’ve been talking about obligation sex in our current series, I’ve had several...
A Way Forward to Recovery from Obligation Sex
Is there a way forward after obligation sex? If obligation sex has been the norm in your marriage, and if it's been affecting your libido and your...
What is Biblical Manhood?
Biblical manhood can't be separated from actual biblical men. There's so much talk about "biblical manhood" and "biblical womanhood", and it's all...
PODCAST: Deep Dive into Shaunti Feldhahn’s For Women Only
One of the books that women report is most harmful to them is For Women Only. When we analyzed 13 of evangelicalism's sex & marriage...
Review of the Problems with For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn (with Download)
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is...
Do You Always Have to Put Your Husband Before the Kids?
When I was speaking back in the early 2000s, I remember asking women if they were a better wife or a better mother. Almost everyone put their hands...
MARRIAGE MISDIAGNOSIS: Putting Reconciliation Before Rebuilding Trust
What if too much marriage advice puts the cart before the horse, demanding reconciliation before trust has been rebuilt? We've been looking this...
MARRIAGE MISDIAGNOSIS: It Takes Two to Tango–But Only One to Torture
We're in the middle of our Marriage Misdiagnosis series, talking about how often the church misdiagnoses the problems in marriage--and so offers the...
PODCAST: How Christian Marriage Books Set up For Failure, with Natalie Hoffman
What if Christian marriage books are telling you that your destructive marriage is normal? We're in the middle of Marriage Misdiagnosis month,...
Amazing News About Great Sex Rescue–The Tide is Turning!
You guys! Guess what happened! Christianity Today actually covered The Great Sex Rescue--and it was phenomenal! A few weeks ago, just after we...
Who Is the Focus of Marriage Teaching?
Who is the person who is most likely to read a marriage book and try to get help with their marriage? Someone whose marriage is a source of strain....
MARRIAGE MISDIAGNOSIS: 4 Things Christian Authors Need to Stop Saying
We're talking Marriage Misdiagnosis in the month of September--how all too often the evangelical church especially gets the problem WRONG when it...
When God Is Grey, And plagiarism Isn’t
One of the big things I believe is that we should hold Christians to higher standards than those who do not claim Christ. We don't get to say,...
PODCAST: Pastors Plagiarizing, with a Case Study of Josh Howerton
Should pastors be allowed to plagiarize in their sermons? I'll be frank: I think evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity, as we talked about on...
MARRIAGE MISDIAGNOSIS: Is Evangelicalism Solving the Wrong Marriage Problem?
What if the reason that our evangelical marriage advice often doesn't work is because we're aiming for the wrong thing? And because we're aiming for...
THE MARRIAGE MISDIAGNOSIS: I Figured Out Why Christian Marriage Advice Can Be Shallow!
What if our marriage advice doesn't work because we're diagnosing marriage problems wrong? This month we're starting a new series called Marriage...
Why I’m Okay 26 Years After My Son Died
On Sunday it will be 26 years since my son Christopher died. I like to remember him on some way on the blog around that time, and since Monday is a...
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Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!