Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
A Step-By-Step Guide to Vetting a Church’s Website to See if It’s Healthy
Can you tell if a church is healthy using its website? Absolutely! Or at least you can make a pretty good start and eliminate a lot of obviously...
What I’ve Noticed About Scripture in Evangelical vs. Anglican Churches
I've been thinking about the lectionary this Easter holiday. It's still a holiday here in Canada, and I'll be taking most of the day to relax and...
PODCAST: Why Is Every Man’s Battle So Creepy? Plus Benevolent vs. Hostile Sexism
Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes....
Why Can’t the Every Man’s Battle Authors Acknowledge Sexual Assault Victims? 2 Horrifying Examples
Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker ignore abuse victims in Every Man's Battle. They never talk about the reality of sexual abuse, or acknowledge that...
NEW RESEARCH: Modesty Messages Groom Boys to Become Predators
Teaching modesty messages makes church more dangerous for teen girls. That's what our newest paper, out in the Journal for the Scientific Study of...
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Why You Can’t Say: “This Advice Isn’t Meant for Those in Abusive Marriages”
Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post Often when we point out advice is harmful people respond with "but it's...
PODCAST: Bad Stats, Editing the Bible, and Recycling 1970s Ideas: A Love & Respect Deep Dive Part 2
What if Love & Respect is Based on a Faulty Foundation? Love & Respect is based on shoddy data; misrepresented research; edited Bible...
Hebrews 13:17: What to Do When Pastors Weaponize Scripture To Say You Must Obey Them
How did we get to the point where Scripture is so easily weaponized? Thank you to Zondervan for sponsoring this post. I mean, I suppose it always...
In the Love & Respect World, Isn’t the Wife ACTUALLY The Leader?
How did people fall for Love & Respect? Emerson Eggerichs' 2004 best-selling marriage book is honestly one of the worst books I've ever read....
PODCAST: Happily Never After–The Curious Case of Love and Respect
If Love & Respect is a Multiverse, Then This is Our Endgame Excuse the Marvel reference. I know it has been years since those superhero movies...
Why Emerson Eggerichs’ Love & Respect Presents an Unworkable Dichotomy
It's impossible for Emerson Eggerichs' ideas in Love & Respect to work in practice. Because what he tells men to do and what he tells women to...
Why It Matters that Jeffrey Epstein Recommended James Dobson
Jeffrey Epstein apparently found James Dobson useful. TW: I will be talking in generic terms about sexual abuse in this article, and mentioning...
PODCAST: To Heal Or Harm–Making Sense of the Weaponized Bible Verses
Scripture can be used to abuse people. But it can also be used to heal! Today Dr. Steven Tracy takes us through some of the most weaponized verses...
How A Comment Thread on A Social Media Post Represents A Masculinity Panic: Let’s Analyze!
Social media comments often give a sobering insight into what men are thinking. And today I'd like to show you what a thematic analysis of social...
PODCAST: Thalidomide, Bad Christian Marriage Books, and a Jesus Who Laughs
God is not just an angry magazine cover in the sky He's not there saying, "here's 7 ways you could smarten up so you don't disappoint me so much."...
How Can We Talk about Men’s Sexual Desire in a Healthy Way?
One of the most frequent questions I get from men is this one: How can I get my wife to understand my sexual needs? He feels like he’s in a...
Complementarianism’s “Equal but Different Roles” Hypocrisy
With thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! Complementarianism has a big problem. For those of you who...
PODCAST: The Problems with Complementarianism in a Nutshell
Complementarians often use pretty words to obscure what they believe. They say things like "men are meant to be the protectors!", or "men bear the...
A New Strategic Video Channel to Start Conversations!
How do we get others to see the truth about healthy sex & marriage teaching? It's so hard to break through all the slop that's on social media...
7 Reasons The Bible Says You Can Divorce for Abuse
Thank you to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post God isn’t glorified when women stay in marriages where they’re...
PODCAST: Francine Rivers’ And the Shofar blew Part 2
Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this podcast It's the second part of our conversation about Francine Rivers' And the...
How Wholly Unqualified People Shaped Evangelical Marriage And Sex Advice–and Still Do!
I've got two case studies of wholly unqualified people giving advice for you today! I’d like to tell you 2 different stories about 2 different...
Did Women Ruin the Church Too? Dorothy Greco, The New York Times, and Jesus
Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! Last week, The New York Times had a ridiculous headline asking if women...
PODCAST: Francine Rivers’ And the Shofar Blew–Let’s Look at Christian Fiction (Part 1)
Let's look at fiction--something we've never done before! Here at Bare Marriage we've looked extensively at the nonfiction, self-help books about...
Marriage CounselLing vs. Marriage Coaching: How Can You Tell Who is Qualified?
With thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! When you need help with your marriage, where do you go? We've...
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Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!