Too many have been taught horrible theology that sin levels. Believers are supposed to have a God who will comfort them when they are betrayed or abused or abandoned. But so much of our theology turns God into someone who doesn't care about our hurts, and is even mad...
Last week we learned that best-selling and beloved author Philip Yancey confessed to an 8-year affair. He announced in a statement he was stepping back from ministry, as he was now disqualified. His wife Janet issued a statement too saying that she was devastated, but...
How do you find the best Bare Marriage episodes? What if you're trying to introduce our podcast to a friend, but you don't know where to start? Or what if you desperately want your husband to listen and understand what you've learned, but it's hard to tell him to...
What does submission in marriage mean? The verses in Scripture addressing wives and talking about submission are some of the most weaponized in the Bible. They've been used to tell women that it's wrong to correct your husband (as Emerson Eggerichs does in Love &...
Who should we ultimately follow? I'm wrapping up my submission series soon, and today's post gets to the heart of the matter: too often we tell women that once they're married, their husband stands in the place of Jesus in their lives. On Monday we talked about how...
If I were to ask you what it means to submit to your husband, what would you say? When I’ve asked that question at marriage groups, people hem and haw and then eventually come up with something like this:When we’re disagreeing about something, the husband gets the...
Do you find reading the Bible off-putting sometimes? Has the Bible been used as a weapon against you, rather than as a tool for healing? And when you read the Bible, you just feel, well, upset? Maybe that's because the evangelical church's approach to the Bible has...
The doctrine of submission puts our emphasis in the wrong place Recently I decided to rerun a series that I did a few years ago on submission, because I point to the posts so often, and yet most of you weren't following me when I wrote them! And once I write...
Last week Josh Howerton preached in a sermon that he was being persecuted. He talked about how he frequently is "cancelled" as a pastor, when internet mobs come after him, and the first time that happened his wife Jana prepared a feast and told him that he was blessed...
It's time to revisit submission and Sarah! Way back in 2018, even before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, I wrote a big series on submission. I haven't revisited it much since then because I had already written the series! But this week I've found myself linking back to...
They called Doug Wilson fringe until he wasn't anymore. The first thing I saw this morning when I got on social media was a post by Christy Lynne Wood saying exactly that--they called him fringe until he wasn't. And it's true--I called him fringe as well, for a time....
The Doug Wilson blowup made me realize: We need to speak to our friends about fear. Did you see the CNN interview with Wilson and members of his church last week? Basically, in that interview they supported: Women existing primarily for reproduction (exactly against...
I startled awake this morning, mid-dream, at 4 a.m., like I do most August 6ths. Because 29 years ago my water broke at 4 a.m. My son would have turned 29 today. The body remembers. I never know what I'm going to write about on his birthday. I usually leave it...
Evangelical influencer culture appears to be very pro-spanking I want to share a story today that I think has deep implications for our work here at Bare Marriage. Earlier in July, Madison Prewett and her husband Grant Troutt shared on their podcast about their plans...
What is "headship"? The headship doctrine says that because man is the head of the wife, then God made men to be in authority over women in marriage, and often in church too. But this assumes that the Greek word for head actually means authority. What if it doesn't?...