What if sin isn't the cause of all the bad or counterproductive things we do? And what if blaming it on sin does harm? I wrote this reflection two years ago, and was revisiting it recently and realized it fit in so well with Christmas! Keith and I will talk about...
Modern evangelicals are often closet fundamentalists. They may wear hip clothing, and they may try to sound "cool", but they often look far more like fundamentalists than they do like Jesus. This week on the Bare Marriage podcast (dropping tomorrow), Keith and I are...
Scripture does not say that our goal in life is to be married. If anything, 1 Corinthians 7 says the opposite, that people should remain single if they can. Marriage is nowhere mentioned as the main reason that God created us, and is certainly not mentioned as a...
It's time to revisit submission and Sarah! Way back in 2018, even before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, I wrote a big series on submission. I haven't revisited it much since then because I had already written the series! But this week I've found myself linking back to...
They called Doug Wilson fringe until he wasn't anymore. The first thing I saw this morning when I got on social media was a post by Christy Lynne Wood saying exactly that--they called him fringe until he wasn't. And it's true--I called him fringe as well, for a time....
The Doug Wilson blowup made me realize: We need to speak to our friends about fear. Did you see the CNN interview with Wilson and members of his church last week? Basically, in that interview they supported: Women existing primarily for reproduction (exactly against...
I startled awake this morning, mid-dream, at 4 a.m., like I do most August 6ths. Because 29 years ago my water broke at 4 a.m. My son would have turned 29 today. The body remembers. I never know what I'm going to write about on his birthday. I usually leave it...
Evangelical influencer culture appears to be very pro-spanking I want to share a story today that I think has deep implications for our work here at Bare Marriage. Earlier in July, Madison Prewett and her husband Grant Troutt shared on their podcast about their plans...
What is "headship"? The headship doctrine says that because man is the head of the wife, then God made men to be in authority over women in marriage, and often in church too. But this assumes that the Greek word for head actually means authority. What if it doesn't?...
Doug Wilson's daughter Rebekah Merkle peddles patriarchy in Eve in Exile And not just patriarchy, but downright misogyny.I haven't taken a look at her books yet, because we have a system for choosing which books we look at based on Amazon sales rankings, and we...
Have evangelicals abandoned truth? I've been on several dustups on Instagram lately about the same issue. Popular trad wife influencers are creating reels using the false stat that when dads come to Christ first, in 93% of cases the families follow, compared with...
Let's look at some interesting new research studies on infidelity and more! Every now and then we like to do a research spotlight podcast where we pull a bunch of new studies and see what they say about the things that we talk about all the time here at Bare Marriage....
These stories are adapted from the book Safe Church: How To Guard Against Sexism & Abuse in Christian Communities by Dr. Andrew Bauman. Art is done by Her Cherch. You can follow her work here, and check out HerCherch's merch at the Bare Marriage store!Here's Dr....
Are evangelical women hesitant to marry evangelical men? Rebecca and I talked about this on a podcast recently, but I’ve had so many emails since that I wanted to make sure we had this written out on the blog too! Plus I wanted to include a bunch of your comments! (I...
What impact does our new book The Marriage You Want have on people? I was recently tagged in a post on Substack by Joy LaPrade, a woman I've met on social media whom I first encountered through her interview on the podcast Bodies Behind the Bus. She shared how our...