Alisa Childers recently critiqued The Great Sex Rescue on her podcast. Childers calls herself an apologist. She became well-known in Christian spaces as a member of ZoeGirl, and now hosts a podcast where she critiques anyone who doesn't endorse conservative Christian...
Is it necessary to critique complementarianism to help people have a better sex life? One of the critiques I get at Bare Marriage is that I'd be more impactful if we stopped critiquing complementarianism so much. I was talking last week about a big podcast that did an...
Complementarians often warn about the slippery slope of egalitarianismFor the last few years, the Southern Baptist Convention has been trying to get rid of female pastors. At first it was just about expelling churches that called women pastors. Now it's becoming more...
How do you find the best Bare Marriage episodes? What if you're trying to introduce our podcast to a friend, but you don't know where to start? Or what if you desperately want your husband to listen and understand what you've learned, but it's hard to tell him to...
Safety is the precursor to everything that helps us thrive. Often as the year changes I spend some time between Christmas and New Year's in contemplation and listening, trying to discern what's important to concentrate on in the year ahead. You've all likely seen the...
We're coming full circle for the last podcast of 2025! We started this "season" (I never know how to count the seasons really!) since we came back from summer break talking about right wing authoritarianism, and how it overlaps almost completely with religious...
The Christmas story brings peace to me when people refuse to hear the truth. It's my last post of 2025, and I've been a little quieter lately, having some time to think and process. And as I've shared at Christmas over the last few years, one of the things that has...
What if sin isn't the cause of all the bad or counterproductive things we do? And what if blaming it on sin does harm? I wrote this reflection two years ago, and was revisiting it recently and realized it fit in so well with Christmas! Keith and I will talk about...
Modern evangelicals are often closet fundamentalists. They may wear hip clothing, and they may try to sound "cool", but they often look far more like fundamentalists than they do like Jesus. This week on the Bare Marriage podcast (dropping tomorrow), Keith and I are...
Scripture does not say that our goal in life is to be married. If anything, 1 Corinthians 7 says the opposite, that people should remain single if they can. Marriage is nowhere mentioned as the main reason that God created us, and is certainly not mentioned as a...
We need to listen to the stories of missionary kids. Holly Berkley Fletcher released an amazing book called Missionary Kids that I read all in one sitting. I was riveted. Holly grew up as a missionary kid. And she interviewed a whole bunch of missionary kids, some...
Social media comments often give a sobering insight into what men are thinking. And today I'd like to show you what a thematic analysis of social media comments would look like! As you may know, we're quite busy behind the scenes drafting academic papers, some in...
One of the most frequent questions I get from men is this one: How can I get my wife to understand my sexual needs? He feels like he’s in a sex-starved marriage, and he’s desperate for sex. But the more he talks about sex, the more his wife pulls away. What’s the...
With thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! Complementarianism has a big problem. For those of you who don’t know, complementarianism is the belief that God placed men in authority over women, in marriage and the church (some...
Complementarians often use pretty words to obscure what they believe. They say things like "men are meant to be the protectors!", or "men bear the burden of responsibility" or "we are all equal, but we just have different roles." But when you break down what they're...