Nobody wants to pass on sexual shame to their kids! Being able to talk to your kids about sex without giving them the message that they should be ashamed of this part of themselves is such a gift you can give your kids. That's why we created The Whole Story, a course...
Shame from our preteen introduction to sex is horrible. None of us wants shame about sex or about puberty, but a lot of us are carrying it. And how can we make sure we don't pass it on to our kids? One of the big messages at Bare Marriage is that it is possible to...
What are the potential pitfalls of the sex talk with your kids? Having the sex talk with your kids can be so stressful! It feels awkward. What do you say? But one of the things we also know here at Bare Marriage, after surveying tens of thousands of people over the...
It's our 200th episode! And we wanted to celebrate by doing something that matters to Rebecca--and to so many of you. We wanted to read some back issues of Brio Magazine, the magazine for preteen and teen girls published by Focus on the Family that encapsulated purity...
She should know that Jesus is not a Jealous Boyfriend. In our book She Deserves Better, we have 32 headings that start "She Should Know..." 32 things that girls need to know, in the very fiber of their being, to dispel a lot of the harmful things we too often have...
Are we missing something if we save kissing for marriage? One of the tenets of purity culture was that all physical contact--even kissing--should be saved for marriage. It wasn't just that sex is for marriage. It was that kissing was too. Some couples didn't even...
When you're a teen, it's normal to have sexual feelings. In fact, sexual feelings are a normal part of life for adults too! We have sex dreams (the content of which can sometimes be quite alarming). We can feel attraction to people. We can feel "horny", for lack of a...
Every Young Man’s Battle is the only book I ever reviewed that made me weep. Perhaps it’s because I read it after I had already read a whole bunch of books aimed at teen girls, and it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. But I think there was a whole other...
What exactly does "purity culture" refer to? Our recent book She Deserves Better spends about half of its pages addressing many aspects of purity culture, that was so common in youth groups between 1995-2015, and shows how it deviated from the gospel and from what we...
I've been doing so many interviews for our new book She Deserves Better! I wanted a place where I can put the links to those podcasts, because so many of you have been asking for a list. When I do an interview on ANOTHER podcast, I tend to summarize the book quite...
Not every girl has an equal chance of growing up and marrying an abuser. The family circumstances and social environment she grows up in can greatly impact her chances. And these things are, to a certain extent, out of our control. But there are things that are even...
What happens when teenage girls don't understand consent and coercion? They often blame themselves for their own date rape. In our consent chapter for She Deserves Better, we told Kay's story--that all too many of you will relate to. Kay was making out with her...
In She Deserves Better, we include headings listing what girls deserve to know. And they're dynamite! It's now one week since She Deserves Better has launched! It's been a wild week, and we're so excited with how well the book is selling. We've had even more requests...
She Deserves Better is officially launched, and we're doing so well! It's selling really, really well (we woke up to #140 on Amazon, which is INCREDIBLE), My mind is going in a million different directions this morning, and I'm elated, and I'm happy, and I'm actually...
Come celebrate with me! Because today She Deserves Better launches! After two very long years, She Deserves Better is here! And it's selling so well (thank you all so much!), and we're all so, so excited to see how this will actually change the church--and set people...